I need help and advice help me out here please I beg of you?
Question:
Here's the situation:
I have this friend I wanna break the friendship but she knows mainly all of my boy secrets. She gets in trouble plus shes promiscuous,I don't want some one like that to be my friend .However I am afraid if break the friendship she'll tell my parents and I will lose my insurance,bank account ,going to prom OMG so much and all other benefits that my parents have in stock for me plus the trust they had for me they will never trust me again.What should I do?And what should I do with my future frenz?
Answer:
Pretend to still be her friend until graduation. That way she'll still "be your friend", or so she will think. You just avoid her as much as you can. Your parents will think your still friends, and everything will work out! good luck = )
Well stay her friend act in in the future choose your friends more wisley
good luck
just be cool with her and tell her how u feel and hopefuly she'll understand u, don't be cold with her. good luck. =)
If she isn't the best influence then I suggest to break the friendship...And if she tells your p[arents deny it and tell them the story of how she is a trouble making tramp.I think they would buy your story over hers.
sounds like you should have made sure you had no boy secrets
stay the way you are for now. just don't tell her anything. wait until she breaks it up. when she wants to go out tell her that you have something to do. just try to make the "FRIENDSHIP" fade away.
Well if you're bigger than her I'd kick her *** and threaten to do it again if she rats you out. That is no kind of friend if you assume she'll do all of those things. But if you're not willing to fight then keep your fake friendship at least until after the prom because OMG what would you do if you couldn't go?!?!?
She dont sound like much of a friend. Your parents are bound to find out sooner or later. So just break it off with the friend> then sit down and talk to your parents. I bet they did the same thing when they were young. Being honest is the only way to be. I tried it. Good luck
Gradually let go of her friendship.First be short(but sweet with her on the phone) then at school always stay one step behind her and if she notices say oops im running late gotta go. And if she's in classes with you act like your in another world. eventually she will brake the friendship with you thinking it was her idea and she will more than likely keep your secrets because you have really just grown apart. Or she will be affraid that you will tell hers.
Don't you have any secrets of hers that she really doesn't want revealed? You keep hers she keeps yours.
Good luck.
God, you screwed up. Gradually walk off. She'll forget about you and all your secrets, and you'll forget about her.
If you no longer want to surround yourself with people like that, then I suggest you sit down with your parents and have a long talk. Explain everything, tell them the truth. Hopefully they will be understanding. I know I would with my daughter.
Then once your parents are aware of everything then there is not much this friend can do to hurt you. And if she spreads rumors at school, who cares. I'm sure if she is as wild as you say then the kids at school know that as well. Plus anyone who is truly your friend won't care.
Good luck.
does your friends parents no about her actions? its called black-mail. i wouldnt recommend it anyways. just hang out with her less & if she tries anything on you just say ambiguous details & shell think you no something she doesnt want to share. its corny but thats how it goes. go fight fire with fire.
i have a friend like that to pretend u r her friend but ignore her as much as possible.just dont be mean
dont end the friendship with her on bad terms just slowly start doing things shes not really into like maybe say your studying more or that your parents found out something so you can only hangout once a week. just slowly start ending the relationship make yourself boring make her want to stop being your friend
she's more promiscuous than you.
just slowly reduce calling her and spending time with her.
eventually she'll get bored and find someone else to be friends with.
You don't have to come right out and say I don't want to be your friend. Just don't answer her calls or hang out where she hangs out, eventually she will getthe picture. If that dosen't work be honest with her. What makes you think she will tell your parents? I doubt it. If she does your family will forgive you and you can always earn their trust back but atleast you will be rid of her.
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Well all you have to do is to do it gradually...just hang out with her less and make yourself busy everytime she come to you.
You should also make something outta nothing..in other words...you should have a fight with her (not physical) and make it look as though it's her fault. Nothing too serious though..but something to make her feel guilty
well tell her that you cant be her friend and if and when she says anything to your parents just tell them she is lieing because someone spread a rumor about her and she thought it was you. just tell them that she said, "stop hurting me or i will hurt you." easy as pie
good luck!
first: i do not think that your parents are going to take the word of a friend over the word of their daughter.
second: instead of just breaking it off with your friend, try to cut the friendship little by little. dont always answer the phone when she calls and stuff like that. i think that if she is like any of the girls i went to school with, if she gets mad that you dont want to be her friend then she is going to spread your business all over and that is not right, so-just try to hang out with other friends and maybe after a while she will move on to other friends also. good luck-and dont worry about your parents-if a friend of my daughter told me something i would not believe it unless my daughter confirmed it. i also think that it is great that you are smart enough to know who and who not to hang out with. have a great time at prom!
just dont talk as much let her drift slowly away coz then its not like u had a major argument so she aint got an excuse 2 h8 u. she'll get the picture. or move schools.
Hm. Wean yourself from her...ease away from her...become involved in other activities...But remember, no matter what you do, she has ammunition she can use at the slightest whim.
Were I you and were serious about shedding this person as a so-called "friend" <and by the way, REAL friends would not blackmail you in this regard...> -I'd have a talk with my mother and tell her just a couple of things <not everything> tell her you are concerned because this girl may cause social trouble for you and you are trying to break away from her negative influence on your life so you can measure up and move forward with you life...Methinks Mom will take this to heart, if the friend tries to pull anything, the mother will know/understand the negative intention behind it and pay it no mind...
In the future, don't become so chummy that you share ALL your secrets with others, even close friends. Some things are best kept secret...they really are.
Take care honey, I'm rootin for you - that you'll lift this burden from your shoulders and talk to Mom or Dad about it and then move on with your life...
Cheers!
Grace
iv been in this situation too, i think u should just slowly stop talking to her and then if she asks y? just say u have been,tht it is just her tht thinks u havnt been talking to her.then maybe introduce her to some other peeps tht might want to be your friend. then maybe she will slowly go wit them more instead of you. i would just go along wit tht for maybe like 4 weeks. olr at least thts wat i would do!
lose her as a friend slowly. Dont do anything to make her mad to where it would give her the opprotunity to tell your secrets. She doesn't sound like much of a winner, and you should in the future chose friends that are more like yourself and that you as well as your parents will respect. I would just stop calling her so often and stop hanging out with her so often as well. just slowing stop befriending her, and maybe she will get the clue, but won't be so mad. good luck and hope everything works out for you...whatever you do DONT miss your prom, do what it takes, just stay honest. I missed mine and regret it to this day, 7 years later.
Just distance yourself from her slowly. Don't tell her secrets to anyone, hopefully she won't tell yours.
You can break away a little at a time from this friend. Just for whatever reasons be busy when she wants you to do things, have homework or something more pressing when she calls, or you could just be honest with her and take that chance that she won't screw you over by telling your parents about your secrets. In the future I would try to choose my friends more wisely. If you see or hear your friends doing things you don't agree with, let them know right off that you won't tolerate that in a friend. I don't know what you have done that would cause your parents to take away your privleges, but when you are judging your friend remember what it is that you are afraid to tell your parents about yourself.
first of all i dont mean to be rude - but this is not MAJOR - dieing of cancer is major ... but anyways ...
i have been in the situation where you dont want to be friends with someone anymore ( whatever the reason ) ... and this is the best way to go about it - without hurting anyone feelings - and in your case with out getting her pissed enough to spill your secrets .
you nonchalantly stop talking to her --- just slowwwwllyyy stop answering her calls - slowwlyy stop contact --- still have a little bit but just use excuses like you have been so busy bla bla ... and slowly she will back off --- Once you graduate - it will be WAY easier - because you wont be seeing her in school everyday -- once you graduate you loose contact with all your friends anyways .
ALSOOO be very careful in this process not to talk about her or gossip about her - because that will get her going as well - and im sure you dont want that!
ALSOOO dont let her know she has you in this position - right when she thinks she has a little power she will use it!
good luck - im sure once high school is over she will be out of the picture -
So basically you're being black mailed into being her friend.
You could sit down with your parents and explain that since you've become friends with this girl you've made some unhealthy and straight up stupid decisions that you have to live with and you'd rather not go into it but that you're no longer wanting to hurt yourself and you no longer want to be friends with this girl and so if they do hear anything that she happens to say it's lies because you've ended the friendship and she's angry.
Trust me your parents know the things you do before you even do them. I'm 20 and learned that a few too many times!
Honesty is always the best choice.
If you'd rather not be honest with your folks why not just start to slowly stop hanging out with the girl? you could always say you're grounded and can't go out at nights or you need to study, have homework, volunteering, working or babysitting, etc. There are PLENTY of ways to ditch someone. Eventually she'll take the hint.
I hope this helps :)
I know what it's like to dislike someone or their lifestyle and have to be their friend or else...it does suck!
Go to your parents first and tell them you are having problems with your friend, and want to break off your friendship with her. Warn them that she has threatened to ruin your reputation in past arguments by spreading rumors about you. This is telling a lie, but when you do break it off, and if she attempts to contact your parents, they won't even want to hear what she has to say since you forewarned them.
Well, can you just not spend so much time with her? Maybe just not be available to do stuff? In other words, be acquaintances but not great friends. That way, you stay on her good side but you aren't enemies. I assume you are also promiscuous too if you have "boy secrets" that would make your family practically disown you. Maybe she'd be supportive of you trying to turn over a new leaf. Just don't come off as judgemental or "better than thou" with her and she won't have any reason to squeal. Maybe your parents already disapprove of her anyway and wouldn't believe anything she said. Thing to remember is not to burn your bridges - don't make an enemy of your friend. Just try and let her go gradually by making other friends. And next time, choose more carefully - both your friends and what you tell your friends. Life's a big lesson. I doubt your parents would write you out of their lives, but if worse came to worst, you'd still have the same opportunities everyone else has to make a life for yourself. I didn't have wealthy parents but I don't feel cheated. Life is what you make of it, hon. Live and learn.
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