I need a legal help/advice on a prenup?

Question:

i just became engaged.i'm 33 never been married or have children,worked all my life at a good job.i have multible stocks,bonds,and savings accounts that = over 100k.my bf is divorced with a child a huge debt(30k) from his exwife with no other savings.he is a very "devoted" dad(what his son whats, his son gets) and has already told me his son is his 1st priority and he will never love me as much as his son.now add a very controling,money loving exwife to the picture that guilts my bf into giving her anything she wants.he already gave her more money/personal property than the courts ordered and continues to do so.i have played with the idea of a prenup with my bf but hes not for. its a trust thing he said.if i pushed it he might do it but it would damage our relationship.i love my bf and he loves me but i will allways be second to his son and if push came to shove i don't know what would happen.what can i do to protect my money other than a prenup?

Answer:
If you don't want that to happen, why are you marrying him? If you can't trust him, why even take the big step?

Personally I find that pre-nup is a statement of "I think I love you enough to marry you, but I don't really trust you. If you screw up, I'm divorcing and keeping my assets, you idiot!"

It comes down to trust. You love and turst him and you don't need a prenup. If you don't, you shouldn't marry him.

To get a prenup, go to a lawyer for starters.

I would say you are right.. and as much as I am against prenups... in this case.. with a greedy ex... and a son who he devotes everything too... it is a good idea.
He probably thinks that you are not trusting him.. just state.,.. that his ex... can go for more support etc.. and you are not giving her your earned money... you don't mind buying things for his son etc.. but as far as she is concerned.. there is no way and he can't say that it won't happen..and this way.. she can't go after anymore.. it is for the benifit for both of you...
He should see this. and understand that is isn't a "trust" issue but an "ex" issue. You might be able to get a prenup stating that you have control over your personl holding before marriage.. and.. he has some control too.. but with your concent.. if it involves any monies.. prior to your meeting/marriage.

Hope this helps... take care.

I personally would do a prenup becuase of my own security. He should only be giving the exwife money to support the kid. I don't know what to say about you being second to his son.

get your own lawyer, and he gets his own, that is how a prenup is supposed to work, marriages nowadays have a 40% success rate, you better get one. do not add his name on anything that has to do with your money before this marriage.

my second piece of advice, don't get married.

Dear, there are red flags all over the place.

If you must marry him, you will lose all your money in a hurry. And you will be a second class citizen in your own home.

If you must marry him, get a strong prenup. If it is a trust thing, he must sign it ! If he refuses to sign, dump him, and ask him to go and take care of his son and his ex-wife.

If I were you I would dump him in a minute ! I am always number 1 and I never will never settle for number 2, as a wife !

I need a legal help/advice on a prenup?

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