How to break it to them?
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Have you tried telling him what you want to do? Convince him that what you want to do in the future you don't need college. Even though he wants you to go, he may know that this is what you want and agree. He may put up a fight on the other hand. Then try your best to explain what you want to do and thats what your going to do.
Personally I think you are silly for not taking advantage of your scenario. GO TO COLLEGE.
um i don't know how to break it to him but what are you planning to be when you get older like are you going to a trade school or just not going anywhere and trying to get a good job
Just tell him and tell him why you dont want it but i advise you to rethink your decision
Tell him how you feel
just sit down with him and your mom and be open and honest. Tell him why, and then listen to what he has to say. Why don't you want to go to college? Being gifted and getting good grades is a good reason to go. Plus, in this day, a college education will get you the same amount of money a high school education got our parents' generation. You can barely live off of a high school education anymore, especially our generation when you have no experience to make up for an ed. Because of these facts, could you consider a compromise with your dad? You could try it for a semester, and if you still didn't like it, you could try to find something else you like to do.
added- trust me, I know about the barely living off of a high school education thing. The job sucks as bad as the pay. While my husband and I have been getting our education, we have worked high school level jobs, and we have a mound of debt, no savings, and an uncertainty on how to pay our bills to show for it. We are thrilled that I have now graduated and am job hunting for a job that we can actually live on.
just tell him calmly before he makes any plans or anything the sooner the better
Yes, he will indeed be hugely angry and disappointed and not understand. Therefore, you might have to literally make secret plans to exit the area you live with a few firnmes whjo are like minded atfer everyone has gone to sleep. Have a plan with others to do things like learning housebuilding, or join the peace corps. Make fabulous use of your time and experiences. You can later write that you needed to find what your values and beliefs were outside of the family, that you live them abd you will someday return.
ask your dad if you can take a break from school for a year just to give you some time to think about what you like to do with your life. and to own your money yourself. just for a year or so. give that a try. that worked for me.
just talk to him and tell him not to yell, but i definately think u should go to college because there are WAY more opportunities for college graduates than there are for high school graduates
Grab a pen and paper...now find somewhere comfortable and quiet and Sit down...write down what you plan to be doing with your life 10 years from now. After you have wrote this down make a list. In this list realistically write down the things that you can do between now and then to help you achieve this goal.
When you have this figured out, go to your dad. Tell him your goal and have a conversation with him telling him that you have thought this out. You know how you plan to meet this goal and he will respect that!!
just explain to him that you need some time out to think what you want to do with your future,you don't want to rush into any bad decisions and your not ready to commit to any major now.explain you don't want to waste anyone money until your ready to make a full comment
Why not go to college? It's an opportunity. But if you think you need a break then tell him so and make him understand that even einstein needed a good rest..good luck!
I think that anyway he'll be disappointed and probably mad as well. But now the most important question is what are you planning to do if you are not going to college. That's what he's going to ask you right away and you should have a good answer. Also have you consider how hard it is to do great in the future without a collage education, are you sure that years in too this decision you are not going to regret it, you do know you are putting yourself in a huge disadvantage by taking this road.
Sincerely go to college, there is gotta be something that you want to do, and that you can develop a skill in college and make a career out of it.
College education can increase your income from High School only to well over 30%.
It's just a few more years of schooling. Being educated is something one on can take away from you. Stay in school you'll be great full later.
If your heart is truly set on not going, then be honest with your Dad, trying to hide your true reasons, may make him mad. But he should understand it's your choice to not continue your education or higher learning.
Be honest with your dad and respectfully tell him how you feel, and ask him why this issue is so important to him. Remember there are two sides to every coin. I'm sure he just wants a better life for you than the one he has. Love sometimes causes parents to seem somewhat pushy, but we need to try to understand their reasoning as well as our own. Also, you might compromise and see how he feels if you just take a year off from education while you decide what is really best for your life because no matter what anyone thinks, it is still YOUR life.
Picture yourself 10 or 20 or 30 years from now.
Then go look at the people working in the fast food places, restraunts and bars. do they look happy and fulfilled? where do you think you will be? college usually only comes once in a lifetime, if you don't go now, you never will chances are very high you will wind up in a low pay low satisfaction job forever.
its the difference of about 20-150 thousand dollars a year. look in your local paper, see how much an apartment is going for in a decent neighborhood, look at the prices of houses, look at how much cars cost - call up some places to see how much they would pay you to work. you will meet a better type of guy at college too, one that is more educated and has better manners. you should go, tough out the 4 years then you are free free free - if you blow it now you will regret it the rest of your life - go talk to school counselors, talk to adults in low paying jobs - just don't be silly - if you don't want to move away, then find some college close.
I would go if I were you especially if it will be payed for
there is really no good way to break the news of not going to college to a parent but i think it will cushion the blow alittle if you have some kind of goals set in life you said that you were tested gifted i hope you dont just sit back and waste all that talent but there are alot of ways to become succcessful withput going to college but i think you should have some kind of career plan to make him feel alittle better
Tell him gently or blurt it out . . . either way you will hurt him. I do suggest you be ready to let him know that you have a plan. I would not suggest you wait until you're 18 (and proclaim your "grownness"). Trust me, you will need them at some point.
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