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i dont think u should have put her out in a time like this. if u think the guy is that bad why wld u want ur dauther to live with him? is she still in high school? if not then she is at the age when she will have to live and learn for herself
spank her...that will teach her.
Rosie I am so sorry. She is going to learn the hard way and there is nothing you can do to help her. I would write her a letter and tell he how you feel and hopefully one day she comes home. Thats all I have hopefully someone else knows more than me
Good luck
Keep on telling her that you love her no matter what and that your door will always be open for her. That you listen if she needs a ear to talk to.
I am sorry this has happened to you. You need to realize that she is going through a rough time right now. I am not saying what you did was wrong, she needs to learn responsibility. She will eventually come around. Don't let it go too long without contacting her. Let her know you love her and will help HER out with whatever decision she has made. Be patient. The more you bash the irresponsible boyfriend the more she is going to stay away from you. Call her from time to time. Invite her out to lunch. Good Luck!!
I am not a parent myself, but I know that sometimes tough love is the hardest thing to do. I can only imagine to one of your own children. She got herself into this mess and needs to get herself out of it. She is being stubborn right now and thinks she knows it all, we were all teen girls at once. Once she is in some real trouble or having difficult times, she will come to you, she will realize that is all she has...family. No matter how mad she may be right now, she doens't know what is coming for her when that baby arrives. My sister has a 2 year old son and is 28, she is still very dependent on us, her family and I know that she couldn't do it without us. There are times she gets mad at us and we may not agree with the way she choses to do things or handle them, but as family you move on from that and are there for them when they need you.
Basically, I think you did the right thing. Let her know that the door is open to come back or call whenever she needs you. She then will have to swallow her pride and realize what good she does have it.
No matter how bad you want her to finish college that is something she has to want on her own and go back and do on her time. You can't force that upon her, no matter how bad you want it for her or no matter how much you know better than her. I decided to get married and want to get pregnant before I went back for my credential, my mom kept pushing me to finish my teaching credential first and that only pushed me further away to do it on MY time!
She will realize it on her own. Trust me. All you can do is be there for her and let her know you are there when she needs it. Maybe a reality check on her own will do the trick!
Good luck!
Guilt is a wasted emotion. It's real, but it's a waste. She made decisions, let her live with them, as in her case she will have to learn on her own. Stay out of it, don't get involved and fight, be pleasant when there is interaction and don't be judgmental, but at the same time don't bail her out unless she wants to totally straighten things out and get her life in proper order, which means...college, then marriage, then kids, and not in any other order except that.
I am so sorry about your relationship with your daughter. It must pain you to see her in trouble and leaving angry. How old is your daughter? You said she is in college.
It does seem like she is making some very poor choices with her life. But she is obviously over eighteen and it is her life. As long as you are not supporting her, she is free to make her own choices that she will have to live with. I think you are right not to offer her any creature comforts that you are paying for like the car and the phone.
Did this just happen? Maybe when she "cools" off and has time to think about where her life is going, she will realize she has messed up her life. She is acting like a child who is pregnant with a child. If she is smart enough to get a scholarship, she is intelligent enough to think this out. If you have raised her well, she will come to her senses and call her parents for advice and help in this time of crisis.
I am wondering how she thinks she and this young "boy" (a man would finish school and would have a full time job.) are going to support themselves. I doubt if this boy will give her emotional support either, since he doesn't seem capable or willing to support himself financially either. She needs her parents but has to come to that conclusion herself. As hard as it is to be patient, I think that is all you can do.
When she does call you, please have a plan. Perhaps you could outline what you need to talk about. Call your insurance to see if she is covered under the maternity benefits and if the baby will be covered. Ask her what her plans are for the future. Does she plan to marry this boy, finish college or what? You can offer help, but make it clear you will not raise her baby is she decides to keep the baby. Tell her you will help watch the baby so she can continue in college, but you will not be a babysitter for her to party as normal young people her age do. She has to choose to be a parent or a typical college student who has time to have fun.Make sure she understands all of the responsibilities of raising a child. She will suddenly be totally responsible for another life as well as her own. That means no going out when her friends call. In fact, a lot of her friends will stop calling as they do not want that kind of a life, the baby parent scene. Oh, at first they might think it is fun, but that will get old in a hurry.Also, remind her that there is no guarantee that she will have a perfectly healthy baby. Her baby may be fussy or sickly. Can she deal with that? This baby thing is a very serious commitment that is hard enough with a dependable partner and some maturity. It is even more difficult by yourself with no money.
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let her snit all she wants to.
if i were you i would not have said, if you need anything call.
she will be calling soon enough with lots of wants and needs.
she wants to play grown up, she can take the lumps like grown ups do...
let his parents foot the bill for the two dunces and their baby...
not to mention the medical expenses, living expenses etc...
you know what they are but sweetie and lover boy certainly do not! they will find out soon enough!
ABOVE ALL DO NOT START ENABLING THEM TO SIT ON THEIR BUTTS AND LIVE OFF OF OTHERS!
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