Serious Relationship/Life decision!! Help! Please have honest and serious answers!?

Question:

Ok well I am 19 yrs old and my boyfriend is 22. He has just enlisted into the Navy and is being sworn in on Tuesday. I don't know yet when he is going to be leaving but I am starting college in the Falll 07 and I can't decide if I should go with him right away or not. We figured I would finish my 1st semester of course but I am not sure after that. I REALLY want to go with him...get out of my town..our of my parents house..live with him and have a good life and just transfer to a different college. I would get special grants and scholarships for being a Navy Wife. Everything is telling me to go but I just don't want every1 to think we are just getting married for me to go with him (we have been together for a 1yr) My rents will surely freak because thats just how they are and they will think I won't finish college but I think it is time for me to make my own choices and do what I want to do. Any1 have an opinion or advice?! I would really apperciate it.

Answer:
It's a big step. You need to sit down with your boyfriend, soon to become fiance, then married to. He's going to be at boot camp for 9 weeks, after that you have no idea where he's going to be. Find out what he wants. If you go with him, what will you do in the time he's not around, no friends, if he goes out to sea for weeks at a time. Just a few things to think about. lol.

do what you think is best for YOU!
not your parents, or your boyfriend.

You do have a third option. Move out on your own and experience life alittle. Its your life you do what you want to do. Becareful though you dont need to jumpin to anything you cant jump out of.

As far as I know, you can't go with him while he's training and depending on his MOS he may be away for a while so I think you should go to school for as long as you can and figure out what to do when he's done with training. You never know how you'll feel by the time he's done.

I think you should go with him, folllow your heart, if your heart says go, you go. You have to look at everything, but take sometime, and listen to your heart.

Just an FYI. I was in the US NAVY. even if yo get married right now. You cannot actually be WITH him until he is done with Basic and A School.

I don't think you have enough information yet.

You need to know where he is going to be stationed and what his job will be. I spent 22 years in the Air Force so my wife didn't have to deal with me being at sea half the time and it is still a rough life sometimes. Wait until you are through with your first semester. By then you should know what he will be doing, not what the recruiter told him he would be doing. That "convenience of the government" clause can cause a person a lot of grief.

Once you can see better what your life would be like then make the decision. And don't be afraid to put off the wedding until you are half way through school or even until you graduate. I can't imagine being a Navy spouse at Fallon, NV with my wife on the Big E six months out of every year.

Good luck to you and tell your boy friend an old Air Force NCO says Hi and thanks for joining up. The only problem is Navy, gotta wonder about the boy's common sense. LOL

Serious Relationship/Life decision!! Help! Please have honest and serious answers!?

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