Girl turned 18,was honor student,now says she don;t have to do stuff for school now shes 18 .What can I do?
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She is eighteen and legally an adult but that doesn't mean she has no responsibilities while still living at home. Explain to her that if she wants to continue to live at home then she must attend school, get good grades, do her homework, have a curfew, etc. If not then give her thirty days to get a job and an apartment. She will most likely call your bluff thinking you would never put her out but on day thirty but you have to do it. Change the locks and be strong when cries and begs to come back home. Whatever you do do not give in!. She'll be alright after a while and this is probably the best lesson she will receive in her life. Good luck.
Tell her that if she is not going to go to school she has to get a full-time job with benefits and pay you rent. Tell her that since she is not going to school that she is not going to be covered by your health insurance anymore. Tough-love has saved a lot of kids from going down the wrong path.
unfortunately there is nothing much you can do, but try to reason with her. She's 18 and legally can do whatever she wants. Maybe she is hanging out this boy just because you don't want her to. a lot of kids do things just because their parents are so against it and trying to stop them. whatever happens good luck. ask her where she wants to be in 5 yrs. working at Mcdonalds with no education?
well i mean what have you got to lose..you need to sit her down and tell her..how do you expect to be an adult if you can't act like one...i mean i'm 18 and sometimes it wears you out but i still do it... hold on oh she's still in high school.ok you need to cut her off from that boy..which is hard to do but you should ask her where she sees herself in the next 10 years...and how much money will she be making...not even with a high school diploma can you really make a descent living...but if she keeps acting you do need to kick her out for a bit..tell her to go live with her boyfriend and see how that goes! i know you say that will mess up her chances of getting into college but isn't she doing that already right now!? i know its hard to do..but its also harder to just standby and watch a perfectly good/smart person mess up they're life! good luck!
I agree with maxy..I have a 19 and 21 yr old and as long as they live with me my rules are enforced...Ant they dont agree with them until they see what there choices are.Hope that drugs are not involved but I would look into that. If they dont go to school they work and pay..nothing in life is free make them learn it now..
Shes 18 and the FREE ride is OVER........
Put your foot down now. Best of luck to you.
after all that hard work she is just going to give up?!! that is insane! she is almost there almost done!!... does she need counseling did something happen recently to make her just not care anymore. if she is still living in you home then you are still her parent she has to go to school.drive her to school show up in her classes if she is gonna act like a child treat her llike a child.. i just cant believe she would go all the way through school to just quit or whatever.
At eighteen, I had two choices. 1) Get married to my boyfriend and live together married and pay our bills 2) Go to college and live with my parents and also work to support myself (other than rent) and my college bills.
Both choices are choices, but they did not say I could just live there and mill around with my boyfriend. It should not be an option to drop out and live for free and someone else's expense. This is not good for her because she stills needs help in starting her life as an adult. Adults have to learn these things to survive.
Theres nothing you can do. I know its not what you want to hear, but its true. Ask her to consider where she sees herself in 10 years, because education is necessary for work. Make a deal -- if she finishes high school well she can do whatever she wants. I'm pretty sure taking a couple years off wouldnt hurt her chances of getting into college.
When i was 18 i thought i knew everything and i made big mistakes such as quitting school my senior year back in 95, i left home and i just started sliding downward. I finally realized i was being stupid and my parents were right and i got back on track after 4 years and ended up graduating college. Don't argue with her. Don't pressure her. The more you argue with her the more she is gonna rebell. I pray she wakes up and dont pass up her opportunity to make something of herself. I honestly feel this boy is having some influence on her. If you forbid him to come over she will find a way of seeing him regardless. I have not become a mother yet therefore I can not really give you the best advice, I can only relate to her behavior and tell you what's making her act more rebellious.
Your home, your rules, take ot or leave it and let her learn the hard way.
Show her the door. She is an adult if SHE meese up her chances to go to college then SHE is responsble.
When all else fails, pray. I know it sounds like a stupid thing to do but, mate, youre desperate and God works wonderfully in desperate times (esp desperate times). Trust me, mate. I had a friend who wanted to committ suicide because a lassy broke up with her. Her mother wasn't a real mother and her father died last night. I prayed everyday for her to stay alive. I cried for her. It was that bad!! The next day she came to me and cried saying that she couldn't leave the ones she loved behind in a selfish act. So, just pray, mate. Pray and everything will work out fine. You'll see.
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