18 years old, going to college in the fall?
Question:
I already pay for most of my necessities. I feed myself, pay for gas, etc. I do this with graduation money mostly. My question is, since I'm going to college in the fall, should my father be so heated over me not having a job right now? It's getting really bad because he'll even go as far as insinuating that I'm a failure since I'm 18 years old an unemployed.
Answer:
honestly there is no such thing as a "decent" job when you have no experience. you will most likely have to settle on the first job. sometimes summer (seasonal )jobs pay a little better b/c they are only temp if i were you i would get the first job offered and use it as experience towards a better job in the future. i don't necessarily think you are spoiled but your reasoning seems somewhat naive (like most grads your age). college and a job is hard but hard work builds character
good luck
Well my brother is going to be 19 tomorrow and goes to a local college and does not work
All my parents want is for him to focus well on his education and they will pay for everything else..
He sometimes mows lawns in the neighborhood and stuff.. but it pays off that he doesn't have a daily job that would distract him from his studies
I think your father should cool it.. your starting college soon, thats big enough of a change.. He needs to let you adjust and focus on your studies.. you'll have plenty of time for a job later on
Well yeah thats just my opinion
You must understand that he has provided for you up until now and you only just started to pay for things. Part of your dad's beef with you is teaching you responsibility. It is not about being mean. What happens when all the graduation money is gone? You are a grown man now. You have to learn to pay your own way. You have a roof over you head and that is more than a lot of people can say. Even with your degree there is no guarantee that you will get a job in your field so get prepared young man get prepared.
Well, I feel for you. When I was 15 my mom made me lie about my age and get a fast food job for the summer. She couldn't stand to see me relaxing, I guess.
If you have the money, you could find something to do with yourself during the day and just tell your dad you have a job. :)
Personally, I think you should be able to enjoy this last summer of freedom. You'll be filled with adult responsibilities soon enough. But, if you have to get a job, find out where your friends are working. I had a job in a movie theater with my friends, and we had a blast. (Very easy "work.") Work doesn't have to be unpleasant. Sounds like it'd be better than hanging around the house.
Then, if you've got the means (student loans or grants?), why not move into a dorm or get a roommate and your own apartment? Think of it that way-- the money you make this summer could mean freedom later on.
I'm 19, and you neeed to have a job. If you don't take a job now it makes it significantly harder the older you are to get a good job. When your 20 trying to get a job you want to be able to get decent pay and not settle for a fast food minimum wage job becase you don't have work experience/ haven't stuck with a job. Everyone has those crappy/slave labor, first jobs as a teen. You don't get the better, decent, jobs without paying your dues and having the experience, even for just a summer, of a lower working job. Like you'll never get hired as a manager unless you've worked in the field before, you'll never get hired as a waiter (usually) unless you've bussed tables or had CS experience before.
I'm a checker at a grocery store for the summer, is it my dream job? No, but it gives me money and flexibility to do an internship around it. I've also done retail and hostessing, you meet people your age and bring home money. And parents are more willing to help you out, when they know your working towards your own money and putting in an efort.
Plus you WILL need that money you make now in college. Books are extremely expensive, going out, food, dates, projects. It adds up fast and you don't want to run out halfway through the year hten borrow off your dad. And if you want to have the funds to move out in a year or two you need to start saving NOW.
I think now that you're 18 your dad wants to figure out what kind of man you've become, and a really big part of that is your work ethic. Your father is obviously a man who believes in hard work, and if that's true, then an unemployed person is anathema to him. He probably also doesn't want to continue providing you support in the form of room & board if you don't look like you're doing your part. So that's where he's coming from.
And as for the quality of job that you'll be able to find--look, everybody has to pay their dues. Talk to any adult and ask them about their first jobs were and I guarantee that they will tell you that they were crappy, McDonald's type positions. And because of your lack of experience and the limited number of hours that you'll be available to work, that's probably the way it's going to be until you graduate from college. So just accept that.
And if you really want a job, you will not stop at submitting TWO applications.
I wish you weren't living off your graduation money. That should be spent on something nice for you. I will say that fast food jobs, although not glamarous, will teach you life long skills. Everyone should be in customer service at least once. Find something now and earn some money before you start college.
I'd say he's a bit strict. I mean, you're only 18 and already he wants you out of the house and living on your own! Times are tough these days ( I'm 23 and my bro is 27 and we both still live with our parents)!
I'd go to your college and see if they have any bookstore jobs available or go to your job center. You could also go to a job fair like i did at your age (that's how I got my first real job). it's not much but it was a nice expereince. Tell your dad that you'll get a job in due time, but he is being a bit strict on you. Ask your mom how she feels? Anyway, I never experienced the dorm life either so you're not alone and yet I wanted to but never had the money.
Don't worry, through either networking or other resources, you're bound to get a job. There are lots of local places that hire and if your dad is that desperate for you to get a job, I don't see how mcdonalds is bad. I mean, at least you're getting paid and that's all that most college studentscare nowadays (friends say so).
So get out there with a positive attitude and don't forget to keep looking for a better job in the future.
18 and unemployed is not good, even if it's just for a summer. Your graduation money isn't going to last forever. Go find a job.
Think about this also. . . . . As long as you're living in your parents home and they are paying for your college, you are obligated to continue to obey them. I see a rocky road ahead with Dad if you don't.
If you want control over your life, then move out and be on your own. Then you can do what you want. Until then, your parents know best.
what? you only applied for 2 jobs?? I had to apply for at least 15 jobs before I was finally offered a position as an interviewer for a call center. It's not the kind of job I wanted for the summer but I need the money so I can pay my tuition and other expenses for university in the fall. There's a lot of competition out there so don't expect to get a decent job. Just settle for whatever you can get (even if it is McDonalds). It actually feels good to be able to earn your own money.
No, you are not a failure, finding a job sometimes
take longer than one would expect. If you are going
to school full time, working a part- time job maybe
suitable for now. Once you start working, let your
employer know that you are attending school.
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