Can my young relationship last through college?
Question:
I am 17 and have been with my boyfriend for 8 months. Him and I being seniors have to think about college. He is trying to get a scholarship for football and i just want to study art and business. He is the best guy, and has learned his lesson through alot of things, he loves kids, and wants a family really bad, loves his family and most of all me.
Would it be stupid to follow him out of state if he were to get a scholarship, or not? plus, if i want it to work, will it?
we will be alone in a state with people we don't know, so we will only have each other.
Answer:
i'm 17 also & i've been with my boyfriend whose turning 19 this year for 1 year & 7 months. & i've been reading about those young relationships that never seem to last, they mainly dont last because the young relationships turn out to be puppy love, lust, or too much jealousy. something that they wanted to be real but couldnt in the end. sometimes people arent compatable or some people realize that there are other people in the world & lose interest in their current significant other. what youre going thru right now i've thought about alot too. i dont think it'll be stupid to follow your boyfriend out of state just keep in mind that your relationship has to work cause then you'd be wasting your time in another state. & that the state that youre going to with your boyfriend will have a decent college for you to study your major(s) in. make a pro&cons list.
& best wishes to you both :).
If it's strong, it will last no matter the distance. I wouldn't follow him out of state to someplace where you won't know anybody. If the relationship continues over the course of the next year or two, you could transfer schools then.
Studies have shown, by the way, that long-distance relationships have just as much chance of working as close ones. Think of the distance as a good chance for you to concentrate on your studies. :)
I am basically in your situation, but a year ahead.
My boyfriend and I have chosen to temporarily be in a long-distance relationship. He left at the beginning of this summer. In November I leave for Europe until May. I'm visting him at the end of the month, and then after his first semester of college, he and I are going to travel together for a few months. After that, he may transfer to where I'm going to school.
It's important not to cut off other opportunities in your life because of relationships. Reality is this: the chances are good that it won't last. But if it's strong enough to last, it will last whether you're close to each other or not.
If you want to go somewhere that isn't where he's going, do. It's not worth throwing away opportunities.
For the record, he and I are still doing well, staying in contact, and planning our future together.
U both are still young and have a ways to go.thinking of the future and how it may or may not turn out is a good first step.try to look at it as an adventure.it is wonderful to have someone who cares for you and you care for endlessly, however, grow up a little bit before you totally make a commitment to a soul mate.that doesn't mean sleep around, just get your education to the best of your ability and know that if it is meant to be, it will be, but if you don't take a chance on being the best and doing the best job at being the best that you can be than you may just regret it.have a life and live it, and know what will be will be!!
What you want at 17 usually is alot different than what we want at 22.you can't live your life around his unless you're living the life you want also. If you can find a college for you both in the same state, good for you, do it but don't just follow him. Any relationship needs love, dedication to making it work and staying power (as in not leaving until every option has been discussed on making it work).
My bf and and i are almost in the same situation. We graduated class of 07 also. We have been dating for 2 years and we decided to go to the ecollege for a year and then he will transfer to the college of his dreams which is only 45 min away from mine.
When we have to part ways we decided we would see each other at least once a week. For u and you bf that might be once a month. If you can't get a plane ticket, phone calls everyday even if for 5 min. E-mails and im also work. Also me and my bf invested in webcams, that's a great way to stay connected.
But whatever you do, follow your dreams. If he really wants to stay together, ya'll will work it out. But if you decide to go to his college, make sure your credits will transfer and they have the major of your choice.
Good luck!
I think you will both be better people to go your own ways. Keep communicating, and see where it goes. You have your whole life, love is great, but you won't be happy if you don't persue your dreams.
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