After college - move in with dating partner or alone?
My college loans that I'll start paying in Nov. are $26,000, and my bill will be about $270 a month. I'm starting to feel like I want to move out into my own apartment in Nov. I want to move to Charlotte, where my work and the person I'm dating lives.
The person I'm dating is great, but they already have their own house. We've been going out since 4-07, and have discussed moving in together. The problem is
1. If I move in with them, the house is in their name. So if I pay them $500/month, it's going to pay THEIR mortgage
2. If I move in with them, I'll be paying less than by myself
3. If I move alone, I'll feel independent
4. What about all the furniture I buy when we finally do move in together? What about their house and furniture?
What should I do? I want to be independent, yet still date the person...and what about eventually moving in together?
Answer:
Look you are newly out of college, it is my opinion that you have not dated this person long enough to move in together. I think that you need stay where you are for right now until you have money saved to cover your loans, and monthly bills...you can estimate this. I am sure that your parents will not mind you staying there a little longer so that you can get on your feet. I would hope that you will move out on your own, and do things that YOU want to do, and not have to check in with someone...even if you move in with this person, out of courtesy you will want to tell them where you are going and such..just get your own place and enjoy life.travel and go places and do it with other female friends.just go out and enjoy life without being tied down in any way.
Don't move in with anyone until you are married.. the problems are too numerous to count if you move in with a dating partner.
Living with a lover is not a financial decision.
You will regret it.
Live alone.
Don't move in until after you are married. That effectively nullifies all of your other concerns about mortgages and furniture.
Congratulations on your graduation.
Go ahead and get a place of your own, you can always move in together later.
I'm currently going thru a situation where my fiance never lived on his own and a few months before the wedding he realized he misses the opportunity to live on his own,so now I'm not sure where we stand and hurting like crazy. Dont do that to someone.
Get a place of your own and gain some independance,like I said before you can always move in together if things work out. If they dont then you'll be stuck finding a place anyways.
Good luck and enjoy yourself
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