I can't ever please my mom!?

Question:

I admit I was a bad child from the time I was 11 until I was 13, but for the last 2 years I have been trying as hard as I can to please my mom, but it's never good enough. My brother has a 4.0 and has a full ride scholarship for college, but he is mean to everyone, and she never says one word to him. He calls me all kind of names. He will wake up in the morning and ask her to cook him something, and she does, but when I ask her she says I can do it myself, and hes 17! I have decent grades [ 3 B's and 1 D], I am always nice, and I got a job babysitting for 3 hours everyday and only get paid 5 dollars a day, and I can't quit because she threatens that if I quit she will be done with me. My brother always talks to her about what he wants to be but when I want to talk about what I want to do, she says " you will never make it" and just ignores me. I have no clue what to do anymore, because if I don't try to please her, I get bitched at. I'm tired of trying. Should I just give up and just please myself? Or should I keep trying? Any advice? Please help!

Thanks

Answer:
Do what you know you should do FOR YOURSELF! You are the one who has to live with yourself and the consequences of your actions. Do good for YOURSELF!

id just give up and start pleasing my self...as soon as your old enough move out and work hard to prove her wrong...follow your dreams and never lose confidence in yourself =]]]

That is a greatly thought out question. I kind of have the same problem. I get 3 B's and 3 A's, and my mom yells at me b/c my friends get A's, and they are in honors(I'm only in honors math...). so she keeps yelling at me, and i cant please her. to so that, just try your hardest to improve that D, and if that does not work, try talking to your mom. If that does not work, come back years after your successful, and tell her that she should have trusted you.

Hi,
I am a mother and I'm sorry to hear what you're going through. It sounds to me like you need to have a heart-to-heart talk with your mom about your feelings. She needs to know how her words and actions make you feel, then you both can talk about what it is you need in your relationships with one another. If you don't feel you can talk to your mom about this, maybe you have another adult family member/friend you can confide in. When I was your age, I felt the same way...like I couldn't do anything right, my mom was never pleased. I know the hurt it can inflict. Respect your mom and her rules, work hard in school (it is soo important !) but never believe anyone that says you can't make it. You can do whatever you set your mind to. I wish you the best.

Honey, you need to confront her. Tell her you're tired of doing the best you can and being nice to everybody and not getting any credit for her. Tell her that you don't care about the babysitting job. And most importantly, tell her you are FED UP with her putting you down and undermining you all the time. Tell her that she needs to start acting like a mature adult and not favor one child. And what about your father? What does he say? If your parents are divorced, threaten that if she does not fix her attitude, then you're going to live with him. (That's what I'd do, but I hate my dad so I refuse to go near him.)

definitely keep trying.
then, when you have a 3.7 gpa with a huge scholarship to the college of your choice, and when you get your first big paycheck, say, "man, if i had ever listened to your bs, i wouldve never made it this far, huh, mom?"
sucess is the best revenge,
and your brother will never get anywhere if he doesnt get off his high horse and learn how to be nice to people.

I can't ever please my mom!?

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