I hate them-my parents wont even pay for college--how do i deal?
Question:
When people ask me if I love my brothers, my mom, or my dad I simply answer "no." . And they reply "Oh come on you love them." But how can I love someone who calls me horrible names that no girl should ever have to hear or someone who constantly bashes my very existence. They make me so mad, so angry, I'm perfectly fine around my friends but my family turn me into a person that I don't want to be.
The hardest relationship I have is with my Dad. He hates me, and he has never been afraid to say it either. He takes out his frustration on me, well mom and dad I'm sorry you gave birth to me, if I would've known it to be this hard I wouldn't have come into the world.
Im the " A" kid,in all of this after school clubs, all so I dont have to see them and now they wont bay for my college. What can a girl do?
Answer:
Can they afford to pay for your college? Maybe there is a situation there that you are unaware of. Are your siblings older? Were you and unexpected child? If you were then that could've put a financial strain on your parents that they have had to deal with for the past 17-18 years. Money problems frustrates adults. They are not in any fashion in the right by treating you the way they have if any of the first sentences have any truth to them. Coming into this world wasn't your doing, and now that you're here it has been up to them to care for you. If what you're saying is true it sounds like they haven't done it too well.
As for college, you can do that yourself. If you are an "A" student then apply for scholarships and grants. You should be able to get some help. If not, then you may have to loan your way through college. I know plenty who have, me included. I made it through though. I didn't let money issues stop me. Don't you let money stop you from getting an education either. Make sure you have a wonderful future. Everyone deserves one!!
You hate them and yet you expect them to pay for college? You've got your nerve. Get up off your butt and get a job and pay for your own college
Follow the path you are already on. Be a success. Fu*k that. Here is a hug. Use that anger to show them something, Sweetheart.
Earn scholarships, apply for grants, etc. and go to college. Really make something of yourself and learn from your parents.don't turn out to be like them.
Obviously your family is useless. Cut them out of your life like cancer. Pay for your own college, loans & shcolorships. Live life w/o them, don't go home again when you get to college. File your taxes as single and independent. Stop complaining and take control of your destiny.
I understand you.I feel exactly the same thing. You should maybe take a loan or get a scholarship. Maybe think about been an international student. In France, the prices for University are extremely low and you'll be away from your family!
Know is the time to think about what you gust said.I don't want to be a smart butt about things.So please understand me of what am going to say.Did your mom and dad spend lots of money for you in high school?If they did ask them how much it would be.Know for your collage you have to get a part time job to go about.That way your farther will be happier that you are starting to understand.Money is not everything from your parents.Love is everything form them.Try and sit down and think about what you gust said.Please don't get mad at me also.Am gust another mom.
what you should do is get your spoiled a-- a job, and if you dont love them, then why do you want them to pay for your school......?
First of all, mature relationships should not be based off of what someone does or doesn't do for you. You accept people because they are what you have been given and you are selfish to say that they aren't good enough for you. If they were gone, and I mean for good, your tune would change. College tuition is not something that you should expect to be given. There are no rules that make it mandatory for parents to pay for everything for their child. Legally, after you hit 18 your parents are not required to pay for anything. Stop whining about how bad you have it and do something to change it. Your parents will never respect you if you don't respect yourself and them too.
So you want your family to love you...but you won't even look at them? Hmmm...rather difficult to do under those circumstances.
I find it odd that anyone would ask you if you love your family. I know that doesn't typically come up in my everyday conversations. As a matter of fact, I don't think I've ever been asked that question.
You should not expect them to pay for your college. Get a job.
I have 2 daughters who are in college now. Both have 2 part-time jobs and go to school full time. We help them out by paying some of their bills now and again, but they don't EXPECT it.
They are both on the Dean's list every semester and they will appreciate their education when all is said and done.
Yes I am very proud of them and I don't mind helping them out in any way I can because I know they appreciate it.
Drop back 10 and punt
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