Being Pregnant or being a college students?
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Mooching off the government is no way to live. You'll fell better about yourself if you make it on your own and become a good, taxpaying citizen. And, I am in college and I have a 9-month-old and I don't get help from the government. My husband and I don't get any help from anyone. We don't have a lot of money, but we find a way to pay for diapers!
Finish school, get a good job, and then think about kids. I know it doesn't seem fair, but the American dream is to make something of yourself, even if it's hard. You friend will be doing the same thing 20 years from now, but who knows how far you'll go!!
According to your grammar, being a college student is more important!
If you have the opportunity to get a college education, you should strive for that goal. Kids are a big responsiblity. Your life will change dramatically. If you were already pregnant and asking this question, my answer would be yes, by all means, have the baby and then finish your education. I would not advise having a baby just to get the freebies. It is very hard to raise children these days. Good luck with the education.
I can see why you're frustrated. Dependency status changes when a financial aid applicant has children, so she is not required to count her parents' income, while you probably are. It does seem to reward young women for having children early, but I can assure you that she is struggling with issues other than money if she is trying to attend college while parenting. You have freedoms that she no longer has, and you will have options after college that may not be available to her. Kudos to you for seeking education first, and to her for sticking it out and trying to improve a tough situation. Remember, though, that you can still date, see the world, and buy the things you want upon graduation. Your friend is likely to be more concerned about daycare costs and a decent preschool.
Ok If your already pregnant by all means have the baby and be the best mommy you can be and stay in school but if you are only wanting to get pregnant for the assistance to help you out think about this one first. I have 3 kids i love my life but it took me many years to get to this point in my life where I have some money I didnt get to go to college and it wasnt necessarily because I had kids it was more like I ended up with a child that had some disabilitys and no one to help me but myself it was very hard to deal with. Kids are wonderful but only have one if you want one not to help pay for college because if you wait and go to school it will be hard to have all these bills but in the long run you will have accomplished something great and when you do decide to have kids they will see how great you are too!!
Trust me...you have a better sense of pride when you go out there and work for it yourself and not have to depend on the goverment to take care of you and what you created. As someone who used to be on assistance, but got tired of being treated like crap...I got off my a** and started my own business..before when I was on assistance...NO REFUND..1st year off assistance...$1918 back for refund...2nd year $5900.do the math. While it may seem easier to sit on your a**..trust me.let them cut off her assistance.watch how she'll be crying and begging for help from someone else!
ok try not to be so upset the reason she gets more than you is because she has kids with job and govt assistance for herself and kids...thats a lot of deductions on her tax return...college kids arent being punished parents are given a break its much harder to tend to 2 or more than it is to support only 1 person
Yes, it does seem unfair. But babymaking should not be a vocation. While you work hard and succeed, she has to juggle a job, classes and raising two kids. My husband went to school full time, worked full-time and seemed to do homework full time as well. He helped the best he could with our daughter, who was born half way through his education. It was extremely hard on all of us. I cannot imagine doing it all alone (even though sometimes I sure felt like I was going it alone!) Please do not be jealous. Please pray her her!
college is more important
I am a single mom. I think that it is great that she is trying to further her education. I on the other hand am waiting, I am 29 yrs old and my kids are 5 and seven. I was scared to start school yet for the fear of not being able to support my children. There are ways around it and she seems to have found one. You may think it's not fair, but you don't live her life. You have no idea of how much time and effort it takes to juggle kids, school, a job, and studying. I went to school for 6 months a few years ago (when I was still married) to get my emt. I go to classes once a month and work full time. I find it hard to take any more time away from my children than I have to. I commend her for being in college, I just hope that her kids understand when they get older the sacrifices that she has made for herself and them.
Every situation is different for everyone. I am a 21 year old college junior pregnant with my first. I too live on my own, owe the governmant money, and i still manage to get by. It sounds to me like you are getting lazy about working towards your goal and have made the mistake of labeling a child as a free ride. Think again hunny, a child is for life! I know those student loans seem like they are for life too, but you will appreciate your education in the end. There are alot of students who struggle with money in college, but this may be the learning experience you need and not ever forget. Keep up with school and once you finish you will be glad you did. Be there for your friend and dont give her hell for her situation either.
Politics... they suck, huh. The government helps to many causes! Although it is good that the moms are getting help, you should not have to feel like you are being jipped.
There is not a lot you can do to stop what the government funds (initially), but rest assured that getting pregnant is not going to make your world easier. Remember, you can still go out whenever and wherever. And yeah, you don't get all the tax benefits, but you don't have to spend money on diapers, formula, etc. Your time will come and those benefits will be around for you. In the mean time, stay focused on how good your life is. Moms in school struggle more just in different ways.
Go out with friends, toss back a few drinks and then hit the books! Those low income moms aren't going to be making $100,000 a year... whereas you can.
Dont have a baby just because of your financial problems. Im sure thats not the reason why your friend did.. You should be glad that she is in school and wants to better her life and her childrens life.. Trust me it is hard on her. Without that extra help from the government she'd be no where.
Getting pregnant just to get freebies is absolutely Wrong. You should take some pride in yourself, you go to college, live on your own, have no children and have your own apartment. Sounds as if you have it a lot better than most!! Stop complaining. Finish college, pay back your loans and get on with your life . When you have children it should be for all the right reasons, not for a few bucks! I feel sorry for you . you need to get your priorities straight.
I don't think that you should get pregnant just to get a break in life. If that's the only reason you want to have a baby sweetheart that's not a good enough reason. remember you have to take care of that baby everyday for @ least 18 years not just @ tax time.
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