I am SCARED to go to COLLEGE??
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First off, gratz on your admission. I got into St Johns but I live here in NYC so I cant really relate. Look on the bright side. You definately will not be bored. Pace is rather close to chinatown so you'll always have good affordable food to eat. If you're concerned about homesickness, then you should focus on becoming good friends with your roomate. You can probably find an affordable apartment if you decide to not dorm, which would give you the annual commuters grant which is $6000. If money continues to be a factor, there are plenty of part time jobs available everywhere in NYC. There are summer job programs that I take every year which are only for students. NYC may seem a bit scary to you now but you should be able to quickly get over it, though it may be biased of me to say so. Heck, if you're concerned about safety, there's a hospital across the street from Pace and a police district a few blocks over so I cant imagine a safer place.
Be more confident. It's easy to make friends here since it's quite diverse here. Anyways, good luck. =)
Its fun you will love it . Think positive, allot of people are going through the same transition
college are the best years of your life then when your out your fu***** haha it true u will make friend you start of with one your roomate that is if your in a dorm don't be scared
It is ok to feel that way but you will make friends and you will enjoy campus life and you will make it, God Bless, and good luck.
do not worry i am a college student and i can say hey you will have fun. hey i live in new york city. if u want a good online pal i'm here dogmicjoe@yahoo.com if u need a shoulder.
I was scared of the same thing, and that's because I stayed in my hometown to go to college! it is scary at first with the huge campus and classes, but you get used to it fast and you'll love the freedom. Making friends takes time if you're shy but if you start talking to people right away, it will be easier.
I just think you should calm down.take it easy! If you cant make it then go back home !!
maybe pick a small town instead
the FAFSA will ALWAYS cover it, don 't worry
at least the best info I have
sometimes, grants, loans, Sallie MAe, Freddie Mac or whatever gov person, they get you the money , at 4% or 8%, or whatever
You'll be fine. One of the nice things about big cities is that you can always find people with similar interests. Try a church group?
It doesn't sound like you are ready to leave home. You should talk to your parents about your fears. Perhaps a year or 2 at a community college before you go to a college away from home would be best for you.
If you go, you can do it. Believe me, most of the other kids feel the same way you do. You can adjust.
Relax, millions of people are going through college experiences every day, and they will tell you that its not all that bad. Remember going into highschool, wasn't as bad as you though it was going to be now was it. as for losing old friends and contact with family, contact them on the phone often and keep that bond. Just have a confident attitude and some group is bound to accept you. just keep your personality BIG.
you get used to it. money works out, you don't hve to worry much living on campus, i prefer to pay the extra money and live off campus with my own facilities and such. often they won't let freshman live off campus. it's a lot of fun and you will be forced to meet new people.
Of course you're scared, everyone is when they go to college. Some are closer to their families than others, i'm extremely close to my family so when i left this year to go to college 2 hours away from my family, i was terrified. You'll be fine on your own, it's goign to take some adjustment and you will probably acquire some independence and some responsibility, but it will be fun, and a wonderful experience for you. if worse comes to worse for money you can get yourself a loan, that's what i did, and they're not hard to get. It's going to be hard gettin gused to being around people like that... so it will be quite the adjustment, but i'm sure that it's not something that's too hard to adjust to. it will be hard to make friends and it probably won't happen at first, but it will come by the end of the year. Just relax and let it happen. you can always move home if it's not what you wanted.
all of your fears are completely natural first of all.
i'm going to away to school in the fall for the first time as well, and i can give you a few pointers from what i've learned from my friends (and i go to NYC very regularly)
first, it wont be hard to make friends, because everyone at school will be in the same situation as you. everyone will reach out more because everyone needs people to hang out with.
living in a dorm won't be that bad, just wear flip flops in the shower :)
as far as providing for yourself, you can get a job on campus working a few hours a week to save money, you can get student loans to pay for school, and there are always scholarships.
And new york city is not that big, once you're there for a little while it will feel like home. City life is definitely different, but it's easy to get used to.
the biggest thing is to just relax. life is full of changes, and you'll get through this one :)
hope that helps
College is one of the greatest experiences! I hopw you make some great friends!! ;) Good luck with it all!!!
SWEETIE YOU HAVE ALREADY ANSWERED YOUR OWN QUESTION. DON'T GO. BUT, LET'S SAY YOU DID. AND WHILE YOU WERE THERE THAT FIRST DAY, YOU MADE IT, AND THEN THAT NIGHT YOU MADE IT. LIFE IS ONE DAY AT A TIME NO MATTER WHAT YOU ARE DOING. WHERE WILL YOU BE 4 YRS FROM NOW? GRADUATED OR HOME IN YOUR ROOM TERRIFIED OF LIFE. YOU CAN DO IT, I DID.
You'll do fine! Think of all the people who have the same fears but don't have the courage to face up to them that you have. People in Manhattan are actually very friendly (don't tell them I said this, they like to pretend they're tough!). Also, it's an easy bus ride back to PA for a weekend if you get homesick. Take it slow, give yourself some time to make new friends, and you're going to love it!
First things first, stop being scared. It will be fun, you will have a new life, new friends, new environment, in short, you will be your own boss. No one to say, don't do this, don't do that. Now you are grown up, start taking your own decisions, think before you decide anything if you are not sure. Don't worry you will be a success, hang in there. The first time out of the family bond is scary, nothing to worry about. In fact it should be exciting.
It's okay to be scared. I think everyone who leaves home is scared, at first. I think you will grow to love it, though. Try not to spend too much time talking to your family at first, because it will make it harder and you may miss out on the chance to meet new people!
You can deal with whatever you choose to deal with, so remember that. College is a wonderful time of growth, and you are going to learn so much about yourself! Good luck and God Bless!
Wow, put it that way and it does seem scarey. Is it important to you that you succeed? I suspect it is, otherwise you wouldn't have applied to college in the first place. I am sure you have a lot of presure to succeed, but you must want to do this for yourself.
If you think that all this that you must endure is for YOU and for YOUR future, you will accept nothing less than complete victory over your fear. That stuff you mentioned will seem trivial when you focus on the growth you will experience by learning and loving the journey toward higher education.
College is life, but on a campus. Everything you mentioned is something we all experience is some form as adults outside of college. It's a good lesson and you're already on your way to learning it. Enjoy the experience, study hard and play hard (safely, of course.) Take care of yourself, watch out for frat boys as many are trouble.
Have fun.
maybe you should check out a community college near home, until you feel a little more secure in what you are doing...then you can try the next step, and that is going further and staying in a dorm. for example, you live in pennsylvania, and you can attend a branch campus of psu then go to psu in state college. notice i said, that is an example. you have to make the choice. but, you have a lot of valid fears, and you should do what you need to do to complete your education. i have known kids to go off to college with the same fears, and flunk out, or quit half way through their first year because they couldn't conquer those fears.
good luck to you!
dont worry, Im bout to be off to college in a year or so, so ill be going through the same thing. u'll be great its ur time to shine and to prove the world that ur a good business woman, ur familia's orgullo. THe first week u'll be scared but i know people will approach u and become friends, money comes and goes and a job can help. Being away from home is going to be hard but u'll be a success in the end!! good luck!!
Girl it is going to be alright. It is normal to fill scared, but it i also exciting. It Will take some time to get used to living with people you don't know and college life. However there are freshman meet and greets which are so helpful because you get to meet people who are in the same boat as you and who are away from home. You know that is how I met some of my very best friends who are still my best friends today. We when things got hard we pulled are money together and we made it. I would had for you not to got, because you might regret it later on. Also there are so many was to pay for college, scholarships, in house scholarships that colleges offer, work study, minority scholarships, scholarships for people going into certain fields. So don't worry! Go and enjoy it. Also three hours is not that far, your family can come and visit, and there are always holidays and breaks. Cell phones! Also join some organizations on campus and get active it will help with the homesickness, and don't go home to much because you will never get connected to college life. I have seen people drop out because they were homesick and went home all the time. Also girl you get the best care packages when you go away. I hope that college will be a positive experience for you!
College can be a very rewarding experience. Remember, you will learn more than what they teach you in the class room.
Going to college can and will be a very stressful time. Your concerns are legitimate. Everyone who has ever gone to college has had them at one time or another.
Yes, you will have to make adjustments and you will have to learn to adapt to living with a group of strangers. Some of them you will come to like. Some of them you will hope leave as soon as possible. Its all about growing as a person.
Hopefully you'll get lucky and have a great roommate. My first roommate would fall asleep at night with the TV on. I would wake up at 2 in the morning and have to get up and turn it off. Luckily, that was the only thing that bothered me about him.
As for meeting new people, you could just do what I did. I was walking by this guys room and he was listening to the same type of music I listen to. So we started talking about it. Before I knew it, I had a small group of close friends.
Just relax. Yes, you will probably experience problems and anxiety when you go off to college. But remember, each room has a phone and when you think about it, you really won't be that far from home.
It is 2007 and not 1907.You will make it.You have to go to college to be the best you can possibly be.The only way you can test yourself and your ability to make it in this world is to go away to college.
My best friend left her family for college and she was thinking the same way you are.She is only two hours away from home but she gets home sick.She learned a lot living at the dorms with other people.She is enjoying the good and the bad with living with other people and their ways.She notice that she can make it because she always call, email, and send photos of her experience to her family.She grew as a person.
Years ago all we can do is write letters to our parents if we go away to college but trust me you will be with your family more than you think once you move away to college.You will see them every holiday, spring break, fall break, and weekends.As long as you have family nothing can go wrong.Remember when one door close another will open.Take everything one step at a time otherwise you will trip up and be back where you start.Trust me everything will be fine and will take adjusting to but you have to open yourself to the college experience.GOOD LUCK! ! !
First thing you have to do is, STOP being scared right now!! Just stop it ! Yes, you are embarking on a whole new chapter of your life and really you should be looking forward to the opportunity to grow up, meet new people, have new experiences. This is the time for you now to grow up, and have fun, take advantage of this great opportunity that you are being presented with. You are young so take advantage of all of the financial aid programs that are there for you now to get you through your college years. If you think negative thoughts, things will take a negative turn, please think positive always with everything, have fun, be strong, be a winner, and trust me you will see that the time will fly by so fast your head will spin. Please don't waste your time being fearful. You will see, you will make friends, be accepted and you will have so much fun, and be so busy, that you won't have time to miss your family. This is coming from a woman who experienced the same thing. My college years were the best times of my life, and before you know it, you will graduate and really be out there in the world with a family and different responsibilities and experiences. This time is preparing you for that, so just sit back and enjoy, not fear the ride, you will be fine trust and take care and god bless, and do be careful.
Don't be! The secret you will find is that most of the rest of your freshman class is also scared or apprehensive of the new environment and challenges. You may also be subconsciously picking up on some anxiety from mom and dad that you wont fully understand until you send your child off to school for the first time. If you have time before the term starts go to the library and the student union. Put a book in front of your face to hide behind and notice the new surroundings to get your feet wet so to speak ahead of time. The popularity of all those college movies is due to the fond memories we have from there and the wish that it could have lasted longer.
All of us have a multitude of fears about attending college -- and the thing is, it will be scary, but it will be totally different from anything you can expect.
It will be weird adjusting over the first semester, but after that you'll feel right at home.
Dorm life is totally new, living away from home is totally new, financial concerns are new, it's all new -- but what that means is that it's basically unknown -- and the fear you feel is fear of the unknown, not fear of anything specifically... all of those things you mentioned fall into this category...
and you will find that as soon as it becomes "known", it will be less scary. it will become comfortable!
fafsa will work out if you turned your forms in on time, so that's something you really don't need to think about -- you will adjust and be just fine.
there are so many new and interesting people in college compared with high school that you're guaranteed to find the sort of people that you want to hang with and who want to hang with you.
then you'll be living with your best friends -- it can't be beat.
If not now when and don't sell yourself short. You will still be close enough to go home but not so close that you will be home all the time. Go and start experiencing life, you'll be fine. nothing is ever gained without taking calculated risk.
I grew up and was graduated from a small school in a small town in PA, too. Turned out that most of the things I thought were scary worked out OK. A bunch of things I never considered did not. Penn State main campus had 25,000 students. Class sizes were gigantic (largest HS class had 18). Professors were remote (grad students abounded but had no interest in me or my problems.) Dorm mates were terrific but I found it very easy to join in one or the other activites that were always going on that had nothing to do with my classes or homework. In the middle of my 2nd semester, I woke up and realized I was wasting my money and that I simply could not handle the cultural change from a place where an awful lot of people "knew my name" to a place where almost no one did. Think about the "other" things because you'll find, much like everyone else has posted, that you'll be able to handle your known fears. It's the things you aren't aware of that may well cause you the greatest amount of grief. I'm now a college prof, by the way, so with some maturity I was able to finish college, go to grad school, etc.
But PSU main campus was an incredible culture shock for me.
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