Is this selfish of me?
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Now you could ask anyone...I'm very academic, school/community focused. Doesn't mean I'm the best, though, people are smarter than me. I'm just 'up there'. My older sister isn't so academic, so she's attending a private school on academic probation...and she's not even in there yet.
Well because this is my parent's first experience with college, regarding tuition, scholarships, school choices. they've adopted this as their model.
My guidance counselor gave me a list of colleges that I could get in to. And I was really happy to see she thought I could get in and do well in places like Georgetown, Duke, Cornell... And I showed my mom this list, and she pretty much laughed.
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No, it's not selfish at all to want a good education. Luckily for you, these schools offer need-blind admissions and cover all demonstrated need of students. So a lot of times, going to a school like Duke can actually be cheaper than going to a state school. Don't let the prices prevent you from applying, because you just might get some really good financial aid offers. It doesn't hurt to apply, but if you don't apply, when you're older, you would always be wondering if you could have ended up at a more prestigious school.
No, you shouldn't have to give up your dreams
No, you should strive for the best. If you want to go to those colleges, you should try. However, you should also apply for a variety of colleges: colleges you are sure you can get into, colleges you think you can get into, and colleges you hope you can get into.
Sounds like your parents are too focused on your older sister. They fail to see what you have to offer and your sister is setting the bar pretty low in terms of expectations. Get in to Cornell and show them what you're capable of.
Your parents should be supportive! It is really mean of them to think that there daughter couldn't make it into a top quality college. Honestly, I'd tell my parents where to stick it if they thought I couldn't make it. That seems a little like emotional abuse to me, too. Your parents meed to grow up, not you, sweetie. If you think you can do it then go for it!!
You want to succeed, and can. Your mother is not willing to pay 60000+ in tuition+living expenses, etc. for four years.
It is not selfish of you to pursue Ivy League education. It is selfish of you to expect your mother to pay 250,000+ for four years of education. With an Ivy League diploma, you obviously will make money; are loans out of your realm of possibilities? Your mom also has to pay for your sisters.
Go for the Ivy League, but do not expect mommy to pay for everything.
No, its not selfish in any bad way. You want something good for yourself and your future, so you should go for it. You can yake out student loans and see how far scholarships will get you. Don't worry so much about cost. If there is a school you can go to that you really would like to get into, don't feel selfish about trying to get into it.
I think everything is really self-motivated at its root, absolutely everything. Maybe (if I understand your story right) your mom is being very selfish herslef in not paying the extra money it may take to get you in to the school of your choice. If thats so, I know what you feel like...
It is not wrong and you should try to get in but understand your parents can only help so much and you will have to come up with the rest. College is expensive and with 3 children to pay for your parents cannot possibly pay a large tuition. Some parents don't help their children with college at all so I think it's great that your mom wants to help.
You are definitley not selfish. You have every right to go to the college that you want. You don't need your parents permission to apply for scholarships nor for financial aid. You can get financial aid based on your income not your parents. I would really look into that kind of thing so that you know how everything works with financial aid before you get yourself into it. I had several friends put themselves through college with no help from their parents. Good luck to you and I hope you are able to reach your dreams and that your parents stop hindering you.
You don't need your parents to look into scholarships. I think you need to apply for financial aid, scholarships and possibly a school loan. Tell your parents what you have told all of us. Tell that you've worked very hard to get where you are and that your not going to let tuition stand in your way and that you'll pay for it yourself. Your parents or someone respnsible will have to co-sign, unless it's a federal loan, which you will deff. get. Never forget these words, "the greatest thing to ever invest in is yourself, your education." In the end it will all pay off. School is expensive, but just think how much money you'll be making after you graduate. You won't even have to start paying the loan off until after you graduate. Good luck!
The smartest thing for you to do to appease your parents' desires to save money is to go to community college for your AA then go to your school of choice and finish your BA. This is becoming the most common way to attend college because comm. colleges are WAY cheaper and you get your generals done. You must maintain a high academic average for this to work, mind you. Then you go to the school you want to and save a bunch of money because you only pay two years' worth of tuition. The big issue is where you graduate from and transferring isn't that difficult, especially if you've got your AA. Good luck!
No, its not selfish its your dream,but don't forget your sisters need to have a good education as well so share the wealth and try to make it to the top on your own you've made it this far...pay your own way to a good college and grab that dream all by yourself its much more deserving that way i promise u wont regret it at the end of the hardship will be a better live for YOU GET THE LIFE U DESERVE!!
First of all, congrats on your academic studies thus far. Second, I don't think that you're being selfish in wanting to go to the school of your choice. I mean, it's what you've been busting your butt for. My advice to you is work on your parents, you've got a few months to show them exactly how much this means to you. The thought of sending three children to college is definitely scary, especially with the cost of tuition rising each year. Show them alternate methods of payments; FAFSA, loans, grants, scholarships, etc. Lay out a plan of attack. If this is what you really want then you're going to have to fight for it. I wish you the best of luck.
It is not selfish of you to want an Ivy League Education. It is the dream of many academically gifted students across the nation. But is it fair or even reasonable of you to ask your parents to pay for this Ivy League Education, when you have two other sister, though not as smart as you, deserve a college education as well. That sounds like alot of financial strain on your parents.
Let's take the cost of Duke for an academic year (I'm from NC so I'm playing favorites) tuition for Duke is $32,000 per year, room and board about $6,000, Meal Plan(all Freshmen must have one) $4,600, Books and Supplies $1000 (if you can get the used books), Student health fee $524, Student Union Fees $398, Residential Fees $100, and Recreational Fees $198 for a grand total of $44,820 per year times four years $179,280...I shutter just thinking about it.
The counselor who informed you that you could get into these college should have also alerted you to any and all scholarships that you qualify for. If you really want to go to an Ivy League school I suggest you start searching for a way to pay for them. If you were to get in to Duke (and if your coming from out of state you can almost double that total and you better be an extraordinary candidate, not just smart) you would want to graduate and owe the school hundreds of thousands of dollars and what about Grad School...you'll be paying them back until the day you retire, lol.
Seriously, UNC-Chapel Hill offers an education and prestige comparable to Duke (and I know that's a matter of opinion) and it is a fraction of the cost of Duke. I don't want o crush your Ivy League dreams, but do the research and sit down with your parents with all the information as to how you all can make it work and if you can't make it work then remember this: If you tell someone you went to Carolina, they are still going to think your a VERY Intelligent girl.
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