How do you tell your parents (who are paying your tuition) that you are failing college?
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When you tell your parents (no matter what, they're likely going to be upset), show them you're taking responsibility. For example, are you working with your school's student learning center to receive tutoring and perhaps improve your organization and time-management skills? Are you considering leaving your current school to enroll at a community college (to save money and bring your grades back up)? Are you taking smaller class loads? Are you working closely with your academic adviser? These are all things to consider and discuss with your parents.
Well...I don't know your parents, but if they are like most parents they will more than likely blow up no matter how you tell them.
I would tell them sooner rather than later and be honest about the situation. Also have a plan on how you will turn things around (have a solution). Say something along the lines of :
"OK, Mom and Dad, I goofed up. I had a bad semester and I failed all of my classes. I partied too much and started to fall behind. I'm sorry I let you down. In the Fall, I plan to attend the local community college. Stay close to home, get my life under control. If I have good grades at the end of the semester I would like to return to my original college."
Your parents' reaction is beyond your control. I wish you luck.
Have a plan. If you go at them and just say I'm failing, they're going to be extremely angry at you. They most likely will be very mad, so be prepared for that, but you can preface it with something like, Mom, Dad, I'm not doing very well in school right now. I've made some mistakes, but I've talked with some of my professors (do this) and someone in the guidance office (do this as well) and here is my plan so this won't happen next year.
They're going to be angry, but if you show initiative and that you care and have a plan for how to fix it, it might help ease the anger just a bit. Maybe you can take some summer classes to catch up and bring your GPA up a bit?
Be sure to acknowledge that you KNOW what you've done wrong, that you have been thinking about it, that you're not happy with the way things are. Maybe give them some good reasons (if there are any), like having a rough time adjusting, etc.. Try to get them to understand where you're coming from. If they recognize that you are concerned and are not failing because you're blowing it off and wasting their money, they may be more understanding. Who knows, they may have some helpful advice for you as well.
tell them as soon as possbile, because the more late you tell them, the more mad they are going to be.
I would withdrawl at all cost...If it's too late, then you have to tell them. The key thing is what you do after this. Quit procrastinating, girls, trips, goofing off, partying, video grames, and internet, tv, movies, and more that distract people and give them a barrier to the real point as to why they are there. Trust me not everyone is flunking so it's got to be something about you..I don't mean that to be harsh, but to try to get you to think about what went wrong so you have success in your future. Remeber too, when you fail, your parents who work hard are essentially getting stolen from and I'm sure you want to put a stop to that. Truly best of luck!
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