Would you be upset if someone didn't get you back right away for paying their lunch?
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Ye it kind of annoys me too..
i pay for stuff for my friends, and not my friends all the time and they never pay me back...it's all about how important you consider money to be i guess
I normally would not be upset, except in your case. When they well know you can't really afford it they should pay you back asap. It's really rude and inconsiderate not to.
YOU SHOULD DO THINGS FOR PEOPLE BECAUSE YOU WANT TO .NOT BECAUSE YOU WANT TO BE "PAID BACK".....SO, TO ANSWER THE ORIGINAL QUESTION...NO YOU SHOULD NOT BE UPSET, IF YOU ARE GENUINE IN DOING FOR OTHERS.
Yeah that person needs to pay you back.
Just casually talk about it somehow and be like "Everyone paid me back except I think you still haven't right?" asking that person. and then just say "Yeah whenever you can get that back to me would be great."
I think maybe they forgot. Maybe you should bring up something like the food was really good at dinner and maybe that person will geta mind trigger of they need to pay you. It doesn't hurt to try it!
You are right to be good about paying people back yourself, but when you lend money or things, you should only do it when you can afford to never be repaid or get the loaned thing back, and if you do get it back, consider it a happy surprise.
You avoid a lot of frustration and conflict that way.
I would be upset because I believe when money is involved and the person says they will pay you back then they should pay you back. Money does not grow on trees so even if it is a dollar, it is your money that you worked for.Talk to them and explain that you need the money and you were not hesitate about giving so neither should they...
It must be irritating, I understand too. Just remind them and maybe they could treat you on something else too. If not, then they might just react like this (oh, I forgot). Just a hint, they might have remembered, but just don't want to pay.
Giving is a blessing on those who receive. Your payment will come be patient. Those who give will receive.
It was a valuable learning lesson. First you had a nice lunch with people that you are connected to. Next time, you know it isn't your treat. If they say we share it, find new lunch mates. Don't worry about it, first time no big deal, but the second time it is a matter of principle..
You've learned a life lesson and believe me it's more expensive 2B ignorant. It they renege on a cheap meal what does that tell you about that person?
You really haven't lost that much. It could've been more money, your time, your emotions,etc. Chalk it up and let it go! You're better than that!
The problem is your expectation for payback. When I buy someone lunch, I do it because I WANT to, not because I want them to "owe me one." If I can't afford to buy them lunch, I don't. Just because someone SAYS they'll get you back next time doesn't mean they truly MEAN it. If they live up to it, bully for you, if not, oh well. If you don't expect it to begin with, it won't "irk" you when/if it falls through.
Tell the person that owes you money that you "need it today." Or they could take you out for a meal and pay for it today. Stress that you want it NOW, that tends to make people cough up the cash. Since this person is friendly with your family, you might want to tell your sister or your Dad and see what they have to say. They might know if he has a reputation for never making good on debts. Best of luck to you.
You should never loan anything you wouldn't mind giving away. If I can afford to buy everyone's lunch, in the first place, I will.
Some of my friends (and most casual associates) will immediately pony up. It's always the same ones. They don't want the favor, thank you, how much was my share? I like them.
Other of my friends are frequently broke, but will offer to pay my share on other occasions. Hey I owe you... let me get this one. I like them too.
Then, I have other friends, acquaintances, really, who are just freeloaders, rarely offer to get you back, and never actually do. When they are involved, I never offer to pay, I check the tab, toss out my portion plus tip, and get up.
Honestly, I've been rich and poor a few times, and that's the best way to play it. If it's gonna hurt you enough to pay it that you need it back, don't offer.
no just remember it better to give than to receive.It make you a better person than they are knowing you have a heart &
faith in other. some people you just haft to tell them it thier time to BUY!
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