Am i the blame for this big problem or is he the blame?

Question:

told my husband that i should get his own buisness and he did. only he put the buisness in my name. then he bought a house and put it in my name. then when he got paid we would spend the money. now we are in debt with the irs and my credit dropped big time after i worked so hard to get my credit up. i am really upset. i blame him and he blames me. i told him that he does a crappy job running a buisness and that we should get paid every month. he tells me that if i pay the morgage first my credit wouldnt be bad. i told him its his fault for not getting the checks on time. he still has a warrent for his arrest for failure to appear in court. he spent 1200 on his car instead of bailing him self out of jail.
i yell at him and he blames me. he is the bread winner and i am in school and every thing is in my name. pluse he gave me hpv he said he didnt know he had it now i have to get an operation to get in removed. do you think its his fault for why i am in debt or mine i am blaming him

Answer:
The man is always to blame.

yes its his fault he should be paying the bills and the morgage and why put everything in your name maybe he is going to leave you with all of these debts to deal with on your own
go and see a solicator asap

I am pretty sure, U have done wht u cud do. I see ur husband's fault as well..but cant really blame him for everything.Wht has happened, has happened. Business is not running well. so u need to try other means of earning money.

I think u guys should try n resolve the matter rather than blaming each other...u hav go very serious issue here.

BLaming wont help u to get rid of ur problems...why dont u guys try getting help from loansDirect.com or those companies who offer debt help. Good luck!

What do you mean hpv?? my god you are in stook if it's what I'm thinking!! No man..No money ,,soon no home.. and now no nookie you want the samaritans sweetheart? still it's great when your spending aint it?? it's the paying back that's a drag.and it's both your faults as you started out as partners but the guys got to stand up and be counted no man would allow his woman to take the rap.

Well, you can both spend the next 20 yrs trying to blame the other person. Or maybe even wind up divorced.
Or, understand you are both adults AND partners. Together, you have made some bad choices. Someone tells you to do something, but you have the option of doing it or not.
Both seem to be making some bad decisions, which seemed good at the time. Many choices are like that.
And maybe somehow, together, you can both stop looking for someone to blame, and start looking for solutions. And not being self righteous... my husband and I have major financial problems too I hope you accept my views as a caring friend, who will tell you what you may need to hear, instead of what you want to hear.

Am i the blame for this big problem or is he the blame?

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