Can I wait for her at her job? or is it Stalking?
Question:
My problem is that my soon to be ex-wife owes an insane amount of money to the IRS ($30,000 due to erroneus deductions), yes we filed jointly and yes, i know we are both liable for this debt. (I was young and stupid for filing jointly, she's a real estate agent and i trusted in her to do them correctly). For the past year I've been trying to get in contact with her but i can't;she always rejects my calls and with all honesty I do not know where she lives but i just recently found out where she works, thats how complete strangers we are. Im trying to get in contact with her so we can set up a payment plan with the IRS,i have recieved a letter saying that they will soon garnish my wages. I tried talking to the IRS and they said I can only set up a payment plan of $500 a month, which clearly I CANNOT afford.
Answer:
NO, DO NOT GO TO HER JOB.SEND A MESSENGER!
SUE HER IN COURT FOR HER SHARE OF THE IRS BILL.
GET A TAX LAWYER TO DEAL WITH THE IRS...THEY DO THIS ALL THE TIME...GO AFTER THE EASIEST ONE TO REACH. HER 'COMMISSION JOB IS NOT A REASON NOT TO GO AFTER HER...THEY HAVE NOT TRIED PROBABLY AND YOUR LAWYER WILL FORCE THEM TO. SHE IS RESPONSIBLE FOR 1/2 OF THE BILL. DON'T SAY YOU CANNOT AFFORD A LAWYER, YOU CAN'T AFFORD 'NOT' TO HAVE ONE. GOOD LUCK.
well didnt you ask if they would garnish her wages also? i would call the IRS back and see what other options there are for trying to hold her liable she is after all the one who signed off on them to
Even if you wait for her she is not going to cooperate with you. She's obviously avoiding you and doesn't care about the IRS issue. If I were you I would just call the IRS and tell her where she works. They will find her if they haven't already.
Get your lawyer on this one. Maybe there's such a thing as getting a court order on financial things, and she could be ordered to straighten out the tax mess?
Don't wait for her at her job. She could very well complain that you are stalking her, and you could get in trouble.
You need to talk to your lawyer about this instead of stalking her and taking matters into your own hands. She is obviously not being reasonable abou the situation so I doubt she will just suddenly decide to talk to you when you just show up at her work. If you do show up and she ignores you, then what do you plan to do? Get physical, yell and scream, make a scene? It's a recipe for trouble!
Have your divorce attorney either contact her attorney, or set a hearing on the debt issue and have her personally served with notice to appear in Court. That will at least get the ball rolling and let her know you mean business. Also, talk to the IRS to see if you may fall under the "innocent spouse" catagory.
Well, I think what I would do in that situation is that I would ask around about different options. You two are no longer together, she doesn't call you back when you leave messages, so therefore waiting around on her in the parking lot where she work would only seems like you are stalking her. This never happens to me, so I am only guessing is that you should maybe get a lawyer. I am not sure; but the divorce lawyer should be able to help you with this matter. Have you tried calling her at work? Nah, never mind that would only sound like you are harrassing her, which in this case sinced you two are not in contact with each other, calling her would only sound like you are harrassing her. Well, I would call around and find out. Waiting outside parking lot or calling her at work is a no no unless you two are in good terms. Good luck though! keep us posted.
What you should do is to sue. Use an attorney to find out if she has hidden assets and money. She should be served court order.
I'm not a lawyer so take what I say with a grain of salt. If she does NOT have a restraining order or order of protection against you, I'd say it is fine to meet her after work. Not during work, or before work. Since she has failed to be available any other way she is the one forcing you to go to her place of employment. Just make sure you are very calm, no yelling, no threats as someone could witness the encounter and then you'd have real problems. If that doesn't work you should get a lawyer.
i would. unless she tells u to leave i dont think u can get in trouble. u can always use this IRS thing in court and no judge would convict you. id get a lawyer and see if u can force her to cooperate with you now.
Here is what you can do. Get dressed presentably and go to where she work. When you get to her place of work, introduce yourself politely (well-mannered gentleman) to her workmates as her husband who want to talk to his wife (since you're not divorced yet) about the IRS problem. Yes, let everyone know in her place of work that you both have IRS problem. That will be good enough to get her attention knowing a presentable and well mannered guy walks into her place of work, introduce himself as her husband and tell everyones their IRS problem. When you talk to her in her place, talk with ultmost confidence like a gentleman. Don't shout or even raise your voice, let your wife be the one to do those things. Show the people around her, your a well-mannered individual who is very responsible in dealing with serious financial problem. If still this wouldn't work, take her to court and make sure she pays for the legal fees.
you need to just sue her for the money or else she is going to sue You for harrasment. I wouldnt wait at her job, hire a lawyer, will be expensive but prolly nowhere near 30k. good-luck.
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