I'm severely depressed?
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I am going through a nasty divorce, selected an incompetent attorney who harms my case more than he helps; had vehicle problems/repairs run me over 6K and eat run into my life savings, gotten my credit ruined, had the IRS put a levy on my wages, and I'm going to probably have to file for bankruptcy in the next few months. Things were great for me last year but it seems like a dark cloud is hovering over me at this point. I sometimes want to just say the heck with it and end my life but I keep telling myself it's just a phase and things will get better, but I'm starting to have my doubts.
Could anyone on here point me to some phone numbers that do free counseling for troubled people? I'd like to visit maybe a divorce/depression therapist but I just don't have the money right now. Anyone's assistance with finding someone to contact for help would be greatly appreciated.
Jimmy, I need to know where you live so that I can direct you to the right people in your area. You can either email me or place an addition to your question.
First of all I would like to thank you for reaching out for assistance. The feelings you describe are real and valid, but there is always hope.
I don't know where you are but here are some places to start:
1-800-273-TALK (8255) (National Suicide Prevention Lifeline) www.suicidepreventionlifeline.
You can call the Lifeline to speak with a crisis worker on behalf of someone you are concerned about or for yourself. The crisis workers have access to local resources, and can help you identify ways to help you or your loved ones.
1-800-SUICIDE (784-2433) (National Hopeline) www.hopeline.com.
I wish you well and fervently hope that you get the relief you are seeking.
Peace,
DC
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Firstly, I am REALLY sorry to heat that your marriage has broken down.mine has been going through some serious crap lately too!.but.you did state that yours is a `nasty` divorce.if your ex is making it difficult for you then that is jack! it`s bad enough to split up.are kids involved?.are you away from them? cos that could be one reason you are feeling really down ,apart from the obvious ones.I am from the UK.and we have a support network here called Samaritans and one called Relate.Relate is generally for married couples ,but, they DO speak and counsel people who are going through a split.I REALLY hope this helps you out.PLEASE never feel you are on your own and think about taking your life.imagine the look on your parents/ siblings/kids/friends faces if you did.ALOT of people love you i`me sure and with the right help YOU will come out smiling.THINKING OF YOU.x.PS.if you haven`t already, visit your doctor, they can point you in the right direction.it s not like you are failing, you are reaching out for help and good on you!
look around for signs of depression:
http://www.depression-screening.org/...
this should help u figure out if u have it or not...go to doctor to see if u can get pills for it...IF u want... some ppl would rather deal wtih it without drugs.... u just need to get past ur low point and the thing to do is...not to sound harsh.but sit down and figure out what u need to change to make things better...and implement the changes.if ur lawyers crappy...get a new one..u may not have a lot of money.but start looking at second jobs or third.if u want one that pays good money. start looking into night school that will have a course for a job u might like that may pay well.always do sumthing u like to do or else u'll end up completely miserable..the only way to move on is to literalli MOVE on. u need to keep urself busy so u have sumthing to do all the time while u begin sumthing new and great for urself.get intouch wtih friends agen and go out! one thing is for shurr... do NOT everr think about "ending it".. dont permanently end sumthing that is only temperary. u'll get through it =).psychologists are not hard to find...but a GOOD one is. u'll need to be able to open up to quite a few b4 u begin to realise which one is the one that is good for u. i have had my experiences. a good one can almost figure u out right then and there.if u can lie to them... they arent that great. they need to be able to ask u questions that are easy for u to answer.not just."how do u feel about that?" or "what did u to today?" . one more thing... don't always dwell on the negatives and think of what u DO have. u still have urself to take care of... so do it.and do it well...everyone starts sumwhere...so wheres ur starting point?..just dont sit on ur *** and be sad...i've been there.totally pointless.if u do sumthing about ur situation... at least u knoe ur doing sumthing! rather then nothing at all
keep busy! i hope i helped...
peace
One other thing to consider might be checking with your health insurance, etc, as your company or your plan may offer some coverage or may be able to adjust your plan to include such coverage.
I know what you mean, I've actually had a very similar year. Except, despite my cynicism and whatnot I've found a good deal of comfort in the fact that the REST of my life has been well. Ok, so I don't have my health. I'll be lucky to make it to 30. I was glad when the old lady took off - I've finally got some peace and relaxation which is a hell of a contrast compared to the last, most miserable, 7 years of my life. I keep making more money... I keep getting to keep less of it. Other people around me are having trouble, state tax board is garnishing my wages so I can't help people out as much as they need... I continue to fall further into debt...
My neighbor sucks. Has to constantly ruin the one real joy in life, hangin' out with my friends all night, friday nights. Cranky old bastard.
But, I continue to do the best I can and if that's not good enough f*u*c*k the world - I tried. *I* know I did my best and anyone else can suck it. Besides. Eventually things will turn out better. It seems like the only logical possibility.
I'm not saying if at first you don't succeed, etc etc. Who knows, if the metaphore for life is a rat in a maze with an electrified food dish - we're all kind of screwed!
I'm just saying quantify failure. Don't just accept the possibility of being stuck with the worst case scenario. Identify, what really is the worst case scenario? Once you look closely you can see it's not really that bad. Then just prepare for the worst, hope for the best and take things one day at a time. No matter how difficult your situation is, you can get through it if you don’t look too far into the future, and focus on the present moment. You can get through anything one day at a time.
Focus on what you want to have happen. Remember that old saying, “As you think, so shall you be.”
You make your own breaks.
Never give up.
Don’t take yourself too seriously.
There's always reason to smile. Find it. Even just the physical act of smiling does register in the brain, well, never mind the science - do it, it's good for you! Even forcing yourself to feel happier helps you focus too, helps you make the most of your time so that you can continue to do your best; despite your situation.
Remember: “We’re not here for a long time; we’re here for a good time.”
Oh Sweetie I am so sorry for all the hardships and pain you have had to endure this year. I know how you feel about a steak of bad luck, I have had a couple of years like that. I found a nationwide hot line you can call. Here is the link http://suicidehotlines.com/national.html...
I know it might not seem like it now, but trust me things will get better. You have a streak of Good Luck headed your way. PLEASE DON'T TAKE YOUR OWN LIFE, IT WON'T SOLVE ANYTHING, and YOU WILL BREAK A LOT OF PEOPLE'S HEARTS. Things will get better I promise!!!!! Hang in there, and give your troubles to God. He will see you through. You are in my thoughts and prayers. If you want to talk you can email me
greerangels@yahoo.com
God Bless!!
Please seek out your local community mental health clinic which is partly/wholly publicly funded and typically sees patients on a sliding scale fee (meaning fees are based in income and circumstances). No job, no fee. Check your phone book. Please get help!
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