Bullied by your employer?
Question:
no breaks.Told everyday my work was crap.I worked
as a cook for Bill Knapp's.When I would not come in on my
day off the guilt trip.The place was understaffed.I tried to
report it to human resources and he lied his way out.
The district supervisor said if you would try harder to do a
better job he would treat you better.What a cop out.
Why did stay?I was young and stupid and I did not have
any other work experience to get a job somwhere else.
Just another restaurant to be treated like crap.
One day I refused to work because I had not had a day off in 14 days.He said you are FIRED. FINE.
Answer:
Thats why they are no longer in business. You could of sued for not having any breaks.
Bullying takes place behind closed doors with no witnesses and no evidence (in the traditional sense). When called to account, the bully uses charm and their Jekyll and Hyde nature to lie convincingly. Bullies are clever, but you can be clever too. It is the bully who has the problem, which he or she is projecting on to you. Criticisms and allegations which are ostensibly about you or your performance and which sometimes contain a grain (but only a grain) of truth, are not about you or your performance. Do not be fooled by that grain of truth into believing the criticisms and allegations have any validity - they do not. The purpose of criticism is control; it has nothing to do with performance enhancement. Criticisms and allegations are a projection of the bully's own weaknesses, shortcomings, failings and incompetence; every criticism or allegation is an admission by the bully of their misdeeds and wrongdoing, something they have said or done - or failed to do.
You may have been encouraged to feel shame, embarrassment, guilt and fear - this is a normal reaction, but misplaced and inappropriate. Guilt and fear are well-known as tactics of control. This is how all abusers, including child sex abusers, control and silence their victims. Bullies use deception, amoral behaviour and abuse of power. There is no shame or failure in seeking help or reporting them - the bully is devious, deceptive, evasive and manipulative and cheats. Often the bully is behaving in the manner of a sociopath or other disordered personality. If you deal with a sociopath remember that naivety is the greatest enemy. You must see the disordered personality behind the mask and realise that the serial bully has a completely different mindset, often one that will never change except to improve their skills of manipulation, deception and evasion of accountability.
...sounds like a miserable situation, but if you learned from it, it wasn't a total loss.
That's why you should go into business for yourself. You don't have to worry about anyone treating you like crap. Good luck.
i worked in resturants off and on for 18 years the average roll of the dice is the mgr or owner will be disrespectful to many of the employees. unless it is a 5 star resturant, oftentimes resturants employ people at low wages, or even at high wages they feel they can mistreat their people. have been in many lines of work and i would agree that there is something about working at resturants. one thing that could possibly help is that if you are full-blooded irish, for example if you were to work for an irish pub you may make a great connection, your treatment and pay may be great. my advice is if you have to go to 100 different jobs to be treated good do it without hesitation. otherwise, you will end up in trouble for kicking someones **** that brought it on.
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