When doctor places you in hospital after admitting suicide plan, fix self or kill self?
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my family & i talked my way out after one night.
since then i stopped seeing him because i was lying about my mental health to maintain my liberty.
so i went to another shrink, to whom i lied about ever being in a loony bin...what a crappy situation indeed.
i have tried dozen types of meds - they all give me unbearble side effects. they don't fix the root problem anyway - lifelong depression and a decade of substance abuse (finally under control for ~2years). mainly i'm sad because i drove away all my friends & the girl i loved, and now i find myself deperately lonely+suicidal. kind things that kind people say have all turned into one monotonic platitude. you constantly hear: suicidal? get help, now! that 'help' consists of being drugged and locked up. fix or kill self?
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Hey
I can be your friend. I know how you feel. I have been down this road also. I have no friends because of the same problem. I have abused drugs (Been clean form that a year and a half) I was on so many depression drugs it wasnt funny none of them helped. I cant keep a job. I have been suicidal, I used to lie to my shrink. Dude I know how you feel. I do have a wife and son but I feel they hate me. Its hard but hang in there do not even think about killing yourself
Fix yourself. Don't kill yourself. I know you're going through a lot right know and killing yourself seems like the best solution but it's not. Just do things that give you joy. Don't give up on yourself!
How can you expect to heal when you lie to professionals and drive your loved ones away? You need to trust others to help you. The professionals aren't in it for themselves--there's always another patient and your loved ones cared about you.
Do you want to wallow in your own self-pity-is that more comfortable for you? But it's not good for you.
If you haven't taken your own life yet, I'd say you do have something to live for. Try to figure out what that is and add a few more things and let those things be the motivation to let others help you.
Good luck.
First of all, it usually doesn't matter whether you lie to a shrink or tell the truth. They can tell all about you. If you want to help yourself, you should tell the truth, but don't think you'll fool them if you lie.
If you really wanted to kill yourself you wouldn't have said anything about it. People tell me that most people who attempt suicide are only 'crying for help' and don't really want to kill themselves. I don't know if that's true in your case, but if you tell a shrink you're going to kill yourself that's what he will think.
Sounds like you've had a pretty crappy life, and I'm sorry about that. Nobody deserves that kind of **** happening to him.
But what happens from here on is completely up to you. I don't have to tell you that, you already know it. Your drug abuse is under control and that's a HUGE improvement. It shows there is hope, that you -can- change. That one thing is almost the hardest part.
It's up to you whether you live or die. I'm not judgemental about suicide. Just, if you're going to kill yourself, DON'T GO BLABBING ABOUT IT! If you decide to live, others can only help you, you are the one in charge, the 'team leader' so to speak. If it was me, I'd stick around and fight a while longer.
well, i think suicide is a pretty permanent solution even if the problem does not seem temporary. I have had serious depressive times in my life where I was unsure if I would make it through that day (suicidal). What ever crazy measures that I took during these times got me to today and I am very happy that I am not dead today (so far, not suicidal just that **** happens). I hope that you find a hope to hold long enough to get something that makes life worthwhile to you again because the alternative sucks...it takes all the options away. BTW, one of my solutions was to realize that I did not have to listen to any other opinions specifically and generally I don't really agree with others anyhow so I have learned to do what I do and like and put out the least amount of harm to others and enjoy life as much as I can, along with my hubby and kids (two teens and a 10 month old).
I hope that you stick around long enough to find out that you are the most important person in regards to your happiness and peace of mind.
edited: in regards to what knowitall said, I know that the feelings way real and that telling people you feel like dying is actually a good thing because it is a cry for help because when we are miserable enough to want to die, we cant not think our way out of the situation, we cannot see clearly enough to get out of it but we want to so we cry out I want to die/i am suicidal please help because I really dont want to die. I know the feelings are real and scary and dont act on them, keep crying out for help, okay. And, I can be your friend too if you like, I have one more opening and you can fill it with friendship.
i'm sorry u got depression but dont kill yurself. fight against depression &overcome that. join some counselling group&u will b able to make friends again. now, do as the doc tell u to. yur friend thought of yur welfare &put u here. soon u will b able to comeover this &will b helpful to other depressed people.
Fix yourself.
I am struck by two things:
1st. If you lie to treatment providers about your issues - YOU tie their hands and prevent them from helping you. I gotta tell ya, it does not sound like you want to get better. Some people are just so use to feeling crappy, they have come to accept it as normal.
2nd. It sound like you take their pills and do what you do, but you haven't yet grasped the idea that change comes from you not them. Their role in the process is to act a guide. You role is to work you butt of making changes to improve.
I think ur already fixing ur self. Just sit here and think. You have been off drugs or having it under control for two years that itself is a big aconplisment. Most people who abuse drugs dont even try or thay try and fail. YOU suceeded. You may not agree with me but everyone has a big role in this world. Yours may be to tell everyone that thay also can overcome drug abuse in there life. As far as pushing ur family away and the women you love maybe u didnt want them to see u like this. Or there trying to tell ya hay we are not going to sit around and watch u hurt yourself. Thats tough love and most of the time it works. You should show them that u can and will beat this phase in your life.
you know what i think i think if you are suicidial then you needed to stay in and not talk your way out just b ecause you dont want to be there you obiously needed to be there or else he wouldnt have put you there you need to be in there so go back!!!!!!!!!!... and get help and quit lying!!!!!!
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