Why are they so mean to me?
Question:
anyhow though, i'm overlooked a lot. i used to have a friend, and they were so nice to me. we emailed, and talked on the phone for a while sometimes, helped each other out, and now NOTHING BUT MEANNESS. i don't understand...
Answer:
you must be different from them. kids tend to tease people that are different, try to find people that have your same interests and form a gang.
because theyre idiots who only care about stupid stuff, not real friendships or good people, they just do things to 'look cool' in front of others, thats all that matters to these types of people. It could be any number of reasons, they are jealous, they want to control you, they just want to look cool in front of their friends.
People suck nowadays, sorry to say but everyone is selfcentered, maybe you could find soemthing that is interesting to you and meet people that have the same interests as you.
they're probably jealous because you are better at them in school or you're prettier than them or you have better clothes/nicer hair/etc. Or they could be prejudiuced. take your pick.
These days kids are really mean, I know they hurt your feelings, but you kinda just gotta let it go, now if it gets to bad then you should tell someone!! But everyone goes through the teasing, I did. It'll get better, just mind your business and study hard, cause when you gradutate and go to harvard they'll be working at the local pizza shop!!
Maybe it was something you did or they found out something about you that made them hate you a lot or they're not really your friends and you just realized that know. If things aren't clear between you guys then just TALK. Communication is the key.
not everybody in life is gonna like you cause probably they are doing this cause you are an easy target or theres something special abt u and they jealous just ignore them don't return the meaness back cause u know why u got class unlike the haters.
At that age, everyone is trying to fit in, and the sad part is that they are going to be mean to those they view as weak or kind to make themselves look cooler. The best thing to do is hold your head up high, pretend like you don't hear what they are saying, and don't let it get you down. It will eventually stop, just give it some time and stay strong.
the best thing that bullies don't like is being ignored so the best thing you can do is ignore them or talk to your parents but if you don't ignore them and carry on crying and etc they like it so they carry on so my advice is just ignore them and i hope they will soon stop
i hope it helped a little
I am sorry for you. PLEASE do not care about those mean people. They do not deserve it. They are probably jealous of you. The best thing is that soon you will be rid of them as you grow older and move on . In other words the older you get the better it will get. Be the best you can be academically, hobby wise and physical exercise wise. You are probably superior to them all and will be great in the working world ( although there are always a few thorns there too) The main thing is to detach yourself from others actions, being happy that YOU arent the one acting so mean. You are a kind and caring person and that will be with you forever. You WILL meet nice people eventually, just not at that school evidently. Do you like animals? Can you volunteer at a animal shelter or at a nursing home for older people? Can you take some summer dance class or some other interest of yours. Are there neighbors you could help out? Please be confident that you are right and they are wrong!!
You say you have done nothing wrong. Nor are you a mean person yourself. That may be the reason. Bullies tend to pick on the nice people simply because they have little to fear when it comes to that person fighting back. People bully more often to boost their own ego, or because of how they were raised, among other reasons. As for the teachers. Well ever since most of their power was taken away, all they can really do is track down the children and politely ask them to stop. If anything that would make things worse. I'm not saying you should stop being a nice person or anything like that. Just forget about them and try to have fun.
middle school is the toughest! im sure you're a nice a fun person. just sometimes, kids chose a particular person to pick on... It probably ahs a lot less to do with your looks and kindness than it does on how you REACT to the teasing.
I've worked with kids since I was a kid myself (I started lifeguarding at 15). anyway, a group of kids like to to find somebody who really reacts to the teasing. The more upset a person gets, the more fun it is for them I guess. There was this cute boy that was super friendly, nice and caring. he made a great friend, but his feelings got hurt very very easily. so, the other boys found this out and started teasing him about anything and everything and he would often have to go home crying.
The teachers/adults will not stop it. I used to get the boys in trouble and even send them home, but it doesn't stop it. I think it has to be an attitude change from within yourself.
Become more confident. if you know you're a good person, then try not to let those mean kids get to you! Just shrug it off.
Also, when I was in 5th grade, I was teased and called "dog " by the boys on the bus. they even gave me a dog treat for Christmas. I wasn't even an ugly kid or anything! I just reacted more to it than the other girls on the bus.
anyway, i grew out of it and so will you! stick up for other kids who are getting teased and then you guys can form a bond! thatas also what i did in 5th and 6th rgade and i made some awesome friends that way! my best friend in middle school was being called a "lesbian" (before we knew what it meant and that that's not really even a bad thing to be...) and was outcasted from the popular girls... we had a blast for quite a few years!
Practically everything above helps and some things that i can say to you that might help also:
1) Are you completely positive you didn't do anything? No teasing, back talking, any of that?
2. You have friends and hey not everyone hates you!
3. Find an activity you like. Chess, Swimming, Art, Music anything! Then join the club or something and then make friends. Just fin the activity that interests you and then you will get to know more people with the same interests as you!
4. Stay strong. You may just be different. Thats all right though. I think being different is cool! coming from a school where EVERYONE and i mean EVERYONE is different, i understand what you mean. No matter how long you go to the school people just tease you if you are different or something.
5. The only real friends are the people who aren't mean to you and actually respect you...as long as you don't boss them around i mean. But they also care about your feelings!
listen, you gotta understand that it happens to almost everyone. Even if you're nice or a good person there are people out there that will make fun of you or hate you. People get made fun of for anything nowadays. It can be your clothes, the bag your wear, shoes, way you speak. I can go on and on. I say screw those people, because in the future, they are not going to be making your money and making decsions. YOU ARE! So live your life, and forget that negative trash. I know its tough but you'll know what I mean in the future.
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