I met this girl from my college online, how do I approach this situation?


Question:
i met this girl online who goes to my school (big college) and we chatted on AIM for half an hour or so. I come across way better on IM because I get nervous talking to people. I met her through kind of a dating site, though not exactly, and she seems like me type. I'm very shy, and I don't know how to handle this situation. Should I meet her in person? When? I've been on one date in my life.

Answer:
Maybe you should get to know her a little better before you meet her. If you have things in common, then that might make you more comfortable about meeting in person. The more conversations you have with her, the easier you might be able to talk to her face to face. I would suggest swapping pictures too, if you haven't already. That way, there are no surprises to either of you later. Once you know what each other look like, and establish communication, then suggesting to meet will not feel awkward but more like the natural "next step" in the relationship.
You need to be a man, get off of the computer and go out and talk to REAL people.
Just go for it. What have you got to lose? Nothing. My dad always said, "Feel the fear but do it anyway."
You surely need to take this forward. Do NOT expect to happen it naturally. However, do NOT tell her straighforward as it runs the risk of breaking out. Just let her know in subtle ways that you like her. Let some time pass. Then at appropriate moment, tell her that you want to be more intimate with her.
The easiest thing in the world to do would be ( if you both have roomates) say that you n your roomate are gonna grab some dinn at the union or some coffee on campus and ask if she wants to come (and bring her roomate obviously.)

perhaps...chat with her online a lil more before planning to meet, and when you meet, make it a short, no longer than 45 minutes kind of meeting..that way you arent stuck if it doesnt work out!

Best of luck to ya hun, and dont worry about being shy..just so long as you talk to her like a real person and are confident when you meet her, dont crawl into a shell because you cant be the carefree instant message guy.. You will be just fine!
I feel that you should at least date her once maybe from then you won't feel awkward. Come on, you are a man you should'nt be afraid you can't possibly ask her to date you. Try to ask her where she usually hang out and date her there maybe for a drink or catch a movie that the very old way of dating girls. But it works!
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