How does a college age kid who has never really dated start?
Question:
some background info on me
im 20
in college
shy sometimes
never asked a girl out
never been on a date
dont really have any friends in college.
i think i am decent looking because a lot of times earlier (when i was in highschool) girls i didnt know came up to me and asked me for my number and tried to flirt with me a lot but i wasnt intrested then. now in college nobody does that. and i feel like i really want to experience a relationship or at least a couple fun dates w3ith some cool girl soon. i dont really know anybody so how can i go about finding myself a date (nothing online please thats lame)
also ive heard the advice just go up to a girl and talk to her, if this truely is the best advice can you explain it more in depth? i have no trouble starting conversations with people but how do you not come off as a pervert when your goal is to get a #? also what if you see a very pretty girl who you want to talk to but she is surrounded by her friends?
Answer:
I was much the same as you
Here are some good books that will answer many quetions and helped me.
I kissed Dating goodbye by Joshua Harris
Boy meets girl by Joshua Harris
Men are from Mars women are from Venus.
the first to book will give you good insite into dating and courtship
the third will imporve the relationship greatly.
The most important thing is do not worry about dating but being a friend first. The rest will come automaticaly.
Look for girls who hang out at the same places or have the same intrest as you. Get in a study group even if you do not need it, Go to a collegesingles church group there are always lots of girls there looking for friends.
Wish I knew. With me those things never happen because I want them to
start off getting to know girls in less awkard situations than bars and parties if ur nervous. like in classes, find a girl u wanna date, try to find out if shes available, then maybe try a study date. she'll know wut ur doing, but it wont be so awkward or obvious so she may give u a chance
I was (actually still am) in the same boat as you.
Believe me, if your goal is to get her number, not into her pants, then you won't come off as perverted. If you see someone around campus, go up to them and strike up a conversation (about class, etc) then find out what kind of things she is interested in. Ask her sometime if she would like to go do one of those things with you (see a movie, grab a coffee, see a game on campus). If you think it would make her feel more comfortable, give her your number. That way she can't feel threatened because she has the control.
You never know, she may call you. If she doesn't, a college campus is a big place with alot of people. You should not feel any major embarrassment and there are other girls out there. I hate to say it but, alot of times, it is a numbers game. You will get a certain number of "no"s before you get a "yes".
Keep the faith and be confident. Women can sense that in a guy.
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