Crying right now, please help me...?
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Sound like a very familiar situation, they are communists ack!
It's hard to work with them and hard to work around them. Best thing to do is rebel don't listen but they will eventually try to call you crazy and that you need medication. Let them feel in control. Listen to them and say yes, but hide secrets but don't do anything bad, but good for your life. Try not to talk with them. Stay out as much as possible when you can. And I feel you. You need them to survive don't you? It's kind of like you can't bite the hand that feeds! That's bad because if you really need to talk with someone you can't use the phone. You can bring someone else because they are insecure and crud like that. If you're 21 and up I would like to say to listen to them, but don't get mad at something you have the right to be mad about and yell at them because they'll only punish you. errr just stay out as much as possible.
Oh geez how old are you? Get a job and start saving your money!!! Get the hell out of there!
parenting is hard...receiving is even more harder.not sure where i'm going with this.
Your best option is to sit down and spill everything. It will be hard, frustrating, and emotional for you. If you let them know what you are feeling they may have a second thought. Remember also that your parents are only trying to protect you.
First of all, you really are only telling one side of the story. I have a sixteen year old daughter and she handles the responsibilities of driving and school just fine. Are you showing them that you can handle adult responsibilities? Did you run up a cell phone bill? Miss curfew? Fail college classes? As a parent, I wouldn't be inclined to give you much if you were failing at these things. Consider taking responsibility for your actions.
you need to say something to them. I have a sister that is 1 year younger then me and my mom was so strict on her, that I dont even see her anymore. I haven't seen her in about 4 years. dont hide it. tell them you need to talk. just dont hurt yourself, everything will be alright.
sounds bad
the only thing i can think of is to sit them down and have a long talk about all your problems and disagreements
put it all out in the open and see where i goes
You said it, you have to get away from them!
well, if you are under 18, there is absolutely nothing you can do. Their house, their rules. If you are 18, get a job find a roommate and get the hell out!
Cyber, how old are you? What do you mean, they wont let you move? Are you 18?
I cannot believe what your parents make you go through. Now if you are in college, you need to tell them that you are an adult once you step out of high school. A legal adult is 18 and they cannot legally take control of you like this. SO you CAN if you feel that you want to take it to the authorities and make them ease up you may want to do that. They really need to learn how to let it go. Sorry that I didnt help enough but thatnk you for writing this.
If you are over 18, you can leave, you are an adult. You can move out whenever.
They sound like they think you are a little girl and incapable of taking care of yourself. If you are over 18, you can stay with friends, but don't expect them to take you back. That's their problem.
You need to prove them wrong, for yourself.
Just leave do you have any friends that are trying as well to get out of their parents house split the rent with one of them, and with taking online classes you can also work to pay your bills, your an adult now. How are they going to ground you i would laugh in their faces and walk out. they can't control you any more your an adult now
Good luck
would you like to rent a gun?
Show them that you are a responsible person by doing stuff around the house, show them that you can be trusted somehow.
Your only option is to call child protective services and let them sort things out. Good luck and we are pulling for you.
sounds a bit mad to me. i would try to leave if you can or if not keep your head down and bear it out until you can leave. my parents were awful when i was a kid but have mellowed as they have got older.
sorry, but if i had parents like yours i would "rebel", at least then they might see what its doing to you.
Holy ****! My rents are almost just the same. But just not as intense as your's are. The only thing that you can do, is try to suck up to them. Bargain with your parents, like if you get your grades up to A's, then you can get a job. Or something like that. Help around the house, and make your parents see how you are responsible. Even get them a really nice gift on holidays or birthdays. And if your rents are the "explain to us..." kind of people, then make a list of things that are better if you had a car and a job. Like "you won't have to drive me to school" or "I can pay for my own car insurance with a job" and things like that.
Of course it is really hard to actually do these things, because you are probably extremely mad at your parents. But just try really hard to be really good, and get the favor of your rents. It works almost every time ;)
how old are you?
It will be better tomorrow - be strong and one day you will be an adult and you will have kids and you will hopefully not put pressure on your kids. However if you are in your teens then maybe its not as bad as it seems just calm down and allow time to pass and just do your best and your life will improve with time. Smile now!
Can you talk to anyone else in the family who might mediate with your parents...otherwise until you have the money to be independent you are stuck...have you talked to them? told them its unnatural at your age (am assuming you are late teen as you drive and worked). Maybe all you can do is grit your teeth for another year. Try and talk to someone close who might help you with this...all the best.
oh my god.how long have your parents i mean control freaks have been doing this for. show them you are touhgt because if you dont they are going to keep doing this to you.because they probably think you are weak.
Girl you sure have a problem, however it also depend how old you are, and what have you done to deserve this. Parents should be disciplined and strict but it look a bit overboard in this case, sorry not enough facts and unable to give you a good relay without the facts, and this is only one side of the issue, hope you can sort this out, and killing yourself is not the solution. Look at the bright side, at least you can use Internet
wake up a half hour early either go outside or drive somewhere, your parents will be worried sick with no way to contact you. Then when you feel it is time to go home go home in tears saying your sorry and you didn't think that they loved you. before you leave make arangments to stay at your friends house or something.
It is something within themselves they don't trust. It has nothing to do with you. Unless you broke that trust and they are over-reacting?They have a belief this is the only way to raise children.I advise you to copy your question and contact Dr. Phil, he may have a better solution for you.
sounds as if it's time for a real heart to heart talk. tell them how you feel and what your thinking about doing;there if nothing that should make you even think about doing something insane,both you and your parents need help if you attend church talk to the pastor or priest or a older family member it's no good to keep it in
hey gurl. i feel for ya. idk if this will work for you, but try to see things from their point of view when you talk to them first, even tho that may seem real hard to do.and try to reason with them; try ur best not to get angry, be patient, and tell them that u can b responsible, then show them.. hope this helped.. my parents are just about as bad.lol
Hey girl what have you done to get locked away by your parents.
Cant advise, but can tell you it will get better.
Just remember it is always darkest just before the Dawn. And you life is just dawning.
Anyway while your on. Whats this about communists. I know some and they are nice folk.
sorry to read your woes.
not knowing the whole story, i think the first thing for you is to talk with your parents and try to get an understanding of what's going on in their minds.
it sounds easy to talk, but you have to do the talking in a very calm manner and without any accusations or abuse or emotion.
the only way they'll talk with you is if they feel that you will listen to them and not 'go off in a huff' (as most parents think their children do when they don't get their own way).
if you can't get them to at least talk with you, then you'll need to get some one else to help you. if you've got any siblings or other family members (aunts, uncles, grandparents, etc) then you need to reach out to your parents through these people.
failing any of this, your college will have someone who you can talk with, so even if it's a phone conversation, please do it.
the sooner you talk with your folks the better it will be on yourself, and i know what you're going through, when no one understands, but please don't give up. make the effort to get to the bottom of their behaviour and go through the process i've suggested.
best of luck with this, we do want you to be alright, so don't think you're alone, ok.
take care now.
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