College student with question about love vs. friendship?

Question:

First off I am a masculine bi student in my 3rd year of college. This past summer I met a guy through an online dating site, something I never wanted to do, but it worked out well. The guy was in his early 30's, great attitude, successful/active, played tennis, all in all a very cool "Bi masculine guy." Well, toward the end of summer after we had seen each other about 25 times he said that it was getting too serious, he changed his number, and would hardly ever reply to my emails. Ok, so about 3 weeks ago, I did a search for him again online, and I found and chatted with him. He said he wanted to meet, but after about an hour of talking, he logged off, and have not heard from him since. He grew up in a strict catholic family, afraid they will disown him. I really care for him, he resents his feelings. What should I do to get him to talk to me? Drop a letter off at his apartment? I had a gift I wanted to give him, should I? Never knew I would care for someone so much, Any advice,thanks!

Answer:
Just forget him, you're wasting your time with him. If he wants to stay in the closet, it will never work out. You're young, you can easily find someone else.

He appears to be avoiding you. He sounds like he is interested, but is worried about his family's reaction more than his relationship with you. Its hard when you care for someone and they keep cutting you off at the knees (so to speak). I would try one more time to contact him, tell him of your feelings and if he rebukes you, then I would move on.

If your willing to be out of the closet and comfortable with yourself then that is great. If he is not, then it will never work out. Who likes keeping big secrets like that all there life, basically living a lie. I would seriously write him a letter telling him how you feel, tell him your sorry it can't work out and send the present along with that letter. Wish him the best of luck in his journey and then you need to move on. Your still young and it's a big world out there. Good luck to you and your decistions.

Let this guy go on about his life. Relationships take work to maintain under the best conditions. This guy has too many issues and does not seem to communicate very well. You dont want to continue a relationship that has this kind of drama in the beginning.

Dont chase after people by doing things like dropping letters off at their apartment. It makes you look desperate and pathetic.

College student with question about love vs. friendship?

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