Re:What would you do???
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I left becauseof the mental abuse...He is an alcoholic and he made a choice booze or me...he picked booze. Me and my kids went through hell and back. He through out the kids stuff when they were 8 years and 12 years old in -30 degree weather. He has had impaired charges...not his fault of course. I saw him through that. I supported him for years...I was working making good money with nothing to show for it. Finally I decided to make an investment...I bought a house for extra income..It was costing me 350.00 a month I could of rented it for more.He said if I bought it I may as well move in it..so I did. You guys that answered him only got his side. There is always more than one side his mine and the truth. Anyway I left because I got really sick from stress. I lost 60 pound in a week I was only 130 to start with. If I never left I would of got sicker.
good for you.
Sounds like you made not only the right choice, but the ONLY choice. Congrats to you for being strong enough to realize your relationship was over.
..hold the door -- you went from 130 to 70 pounds in seven days? I think not (unless you lost both of your legs).
NO WAY CAN A PERSON LOSE 60 LBS IN A WEEK ! So whAT ELSE DO YOU WANT TO TELL US?
Alcohol is a tough competitor - and wins most of the time if you are dealing with an alcoholic.
HIS addiction took a lot of life out of you and your kids. No body who has not ever lived with an alcoholic can relate to it. It is a sad thing for you and your children, but your story is not unique. It happens all the time- so try to put your life together with your children.
I am not one for divorce or giving up, so don't get me wrong. I am the wife of an alcoholic myself. Luckily right now my husband is sober. But he WANTS to be. YOU can't wave a sobriety wand and help him- he HAS to want it, and even then, the desire to drink is stronger than the desire to stay sober.
Take care, I wish you the best of luck. Also, give Al-anon a try- it really is worth the time if you can find a good group.
Mental abuse and alcoholism are definitely reasons to leave. But you have alot of healing to do also, to conquer your demons. Don't know if a relationship so soon is a good idea. But best of luck
yeah, right 60 pounds ion a week. And I am Prince CHarming
I have some questions here myself.how in the heck DID you loose 60 pounds in a week. Even if you did not eating anything at all the whole week you could not have possibly lost that many pounds. And being only 70 pounds now? How in the heck did you do it?
Another thing that I would like to know is if HE was the one to ask the first question and tell the story...how is it that you was able to reask the question and tell yet another story just the opposite of the first one?
You did say that if you had never left that you would have gotten sicker, so that tells me that you are no longer living in the same house as he is, so how did you pick up on his question like you did?
I don't like alcoholics at all, I just left one and they are crazy.
I think you are right on two accounts. We should all hear both sides and I am glad that you left. I grew up in a house where both parents did mental and physical abuse to each other. They both said that they stayed together for the kids. It was a mistake. I wished that they had divorced years before. You need to make sure that you take care of yourself and your kids. That is all that matters. Please do not worry about anyone else, but the three of you. Please know that they are a lot of people that you can turn to if things get worse. If you need to talk at all, please IM me or email me. Just take care of yourself and your kids. Please try not to worry.
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