Since most women today don't date to find true love & life long commitment, isn't life then just about money?
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Is this true? Shouldn't it be taught in schools?
By the way, I know this is how most women feel because this is what I hear them say all the time in real life. Respected writers of womans magazines, similar writers who write this on front pages on sites like Yahoo as well, everywhere I see this attitude.
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Sounds like a bitter dude that a woman dumped and used money as the reason for dumping, even though it was really his rotten personlity that she couldn't stand.
hey you have to pay to play
I don't know any women that feel the way you have described. Whoever is spouting that stuff must be talking to some strange animals.
its the world that we live in today
You are right about the majority of people marrying for money and not love. I am the few that wants love and money not just money.
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Awww who broke your heart. Not every woman out there is all about that.
honey, you've never met me. i feel like the reason a person dates someone is to find someone that can emotionally and physically relate with for the rest of their lives. to me it has nothing to do with money. ive been married for a year and my husband and i dont own anything that is an investment. people should start "investing" their time in one another instead of money.
not everyone is like that
Some women I'm sure are like this, but not all. I'm 21... yes I'm concerned about money (that's why I work part-time while doing my full-time university studies), I want a good job but I also want to find love. I would never get married or date just to be with someone, I want to find happiness. Money has always been important... you need money to have a home, to take care of kids, etc., and now it's not just males in the provider role but I certainly don't want to be the sole provider, I want a man who has a decent job and is willing to work to provide for his family. I think lots of women are lonely and date guys at first because they're hot or other superficial reasons, but ultimately I think everyone wants to be loved. Marriage isn't seen equal to jail, lots of people still want to get married and believe in marriage. People in their 20s are pretty much like teenagers were 20+ yrs ago, society isn't exactly maturing, so many 20somethings look for fun rather than commitment, but it doesn't mean they don't want to eventually settle down and get married/raise a family, etc. I think you have a very cynical view of things. Money is important for sure but it doesn't mean love isn't an important thing in life. I would rather be well-off and happy with someone who loves me than just mega rich and lonely.
I think you know some pretty messed up chicks, I married my husband at 23 when he wasnt working, we didnt have much but loved each other (still do) he now has a job and earns good money, but back then he didnt. Most of my girlfriends date for fun, but if they find a guy they are interested in then they are open to suggestions. Maybe instead of bitching about how people dont like people for who they are you should go and meet some real people?
I know exactly what you're talking about. It makes great sense especially with all the rights women have been allowed to have in the past century. It seems like women have a lot more freedom to make their own money or to choose who they want to give (err... lend) their bodies to.
Hopefully this won't be a problem for future generations. It seems like the traditional family where the parents remain together until death is long dead.
It will be a lot more difficult in making decisions to have children. Perhaps the idea of having children and setting a good example for them will be enough motivation to keep the ideal of the traditional family intact.
Afterall, who will take care of you when you are elderly?
Your children.
So essentially, women will eventually have the desire to find a good man to raise good kids.
women dont look for money i mean if they do then there golddiggers but i bet there is a great girl for you out there well if ur looking..lol..
Here is what I think about that...I want my kids to grow up in a nice home (that cost ALOT of money) I would like to drive them school in a nice vehicle (that cost money) and you are right to some extent , being with a man that has money is like a man being with a very hot women!
They both arent actually needed, but they are nice.
..sweetie...i don't feel that way...i am looking for love, and companionship...i have my own money, and i can take care of myself, my house, and my family.so maybe you are looking in all the wrong spots.
you cant judge everyone by soem people. not everyone is like that. i mean look at the people who dont hav emuch at all. how are you gonna say they do it for money when their is no money to get?
I cant answer for any one but me. I am a woman !Every one I know wants love,fullfiment and contentment. Money cant hold you , love or wipe your tears away. I respectfully disagree. I want a guy that works and pulls hi own weight. Joyce meyers has wonderful books, tapes and teaching, I found true love. It is awsome. He is a christian guy who is wonderful. No he wasnt and isnt rich in the things that money can buy, I found him in church. Please dont be so negative! Become that person that is real, W become whole! and real and secure. Two whole people make a whole realtionship. Read boundries in dating by John Mcloud! Wow! God bless, No I am not one in a million. There are a lot of good women out there. What you give out is what you get back. God bless you~
Sounds like you're pretty cynical yourself. There are a lot of people out there (men and women) who are more interested in being happy and having a family, life partner, etc. than in money. Money is certainly necessary in today's capitalistic, consumer-driven society, and there are indeed people out there who value it over more intangible things.
But to generalize and say that most women feel this way is ridiculous - this may be an attitude projected in magazines and the media, but there are just as many women (and men) who value love and friendship far beyond money. Money sometimes gets in the way of seeing what's really important, and life can certainly be harder if you don't have much, but love is worth far more than a few (or many) dollars.
Then again, maybe I have a slanted view of the world because I'm engaged to a wonderful man whom I love, and because I have many friends and family members who personally value love and family above material things.
We (my fiance and I) don't have a lot of money, although we are both employed and are better off than many, and we buy on credit sometimes, but I wouldn't trade my relationship for anything. Nor would I (before I met him) have traded the hope of finding such a relationship for any guarantee of financial security.
i have been and am still on the receiving end of one of those type of women. when we first met, she was kind, loving, very sexual and everything i could have wanted in a woman. then i made the mistake to say i love u and move in. she went from kind to very short tempered. from being sexual to not wanting it at all (yes she would let me get some but did not get into it). spent all my money, let my truck get repo'd and the could not figure why i moved out without telling her. were are still dating but not much has improved. she says she loves me, but on christmans she gave her grown daughter a card and a gift and i got nothing, then says in order to give me hot sex she needs to get drunk first to relax. i have decided to give her about a month and if it does not get better im gone. so for the sorry a@@ed women who bashed u here is a story about a woman that should shut them up.
No, working although pays money there is more too it than that. Working also boosts self esteem and EMPOWERS women. Since women became more prominent in the workforce we have figured out that we do not HAVE to stay in an abusive relationship, that we DO have options.
Just because YOU hear what you hear from women doesn't mean it goes for ALL women...it just goes for the women within the circles YOU travel. So IF you are hearing this from women then YOU must be as selifish and as self centered as they.
your just dating the wrong kind of women .Your not looking in the right places. not all women are about money and what the man can do for them. Yes women date just like men. and most i would hope is to find someone special. not like you say to just use them. It's a cold world out there and yes i agree i c lots of people out there that use others. but you stick to your beliefs there will be a girl out there for you. Just harder to find in this day and age. But don't go thinking like them. Thats why so many people have problems these days everyone out to use someone else. You stay the way you are. you'll find someone who agree's with you. good luck
Life is about being happy. For many people (women AND men) marriage isn't the ultimate goal. Dating is fun. That's all there is to it. If more comes, then that's great! It's not some great dream to be married anymore, so what's the big deal? Everybody makes their own choices. Freedom & liberation are good things.. Why do you care what other people do, as long as YOU are happy. They aren't forcing you to stay single.
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