Women's point of view on marriage & romance please?
Question:
What I hate is most relationships are based on romance, which means the romantic factor comes into the relationship first and is basis for creating love. But you could never be sure that the other person actually loves for for you, because of sexual attraction.
Feelings of love are grown with time and commitment and investment. Romance is based on completely different things such as challange, status, power, charm, etc.
I love (the real definition) a girl who I have known for 4yrs. Obviously I am romantically attracted to her but this is not the basis of my choice. I want to marry her... but not sure if this is feasible? We have never had a romantic relationship, although we are very close and she has been felt attraction for me. She continues to date guys that dont love her for her. Not sure if she'll date me since I think this way.=(
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a rich and a fool guy
Love is a feeling. Romance is an action. Romance is a description of love. Love is the greatest feeling ever.
tahts hard
Dude girls hate when you think this deep in to things. They just want you to grab them and kiss them.
Never in my life has a girl turned away when i went to kiss her and I bet the same will be true for you
Woahh!! that is really long. Dont think about it too much when you meet the special someone you will know baby!
never know unless you sit down and tell her how you feel whats it giong to hurt,least you will know
Well, you are going to have to romance her to get her attention!
My husband is very romantic, I am not. We do love eachother very much. Just celebrated our 18th
Love/romantic love is the same to me, but is unrelated to your last paragraph. Not sure what it has to do with it.
Declare yourself to the girl you love. If she says no, move on. If she says, yes, great. You'll never know if you don't try. What's the worst she'll do? Say no? How is that worse than what is going on now?
You'll never know unless you try. I would suggest that you romance her (in the accepted cultural sense) and then her love/respect for you can turn to physical as well. All women love to be swept off their feet...and sometimes when it comes from an unexpected quarter, it makes it all that much more special. Good luck with it! I hope you get your lady. :)
Love, is SO much more than a feeling. Love is a commitment, and devotion to your partner! If you love this woman in this way, you shouldn't let her go! Suck it up, and make a move! Physical attraction is not the only factor for love. (it's not even the main factor.)If you truly love her, you should pursue her.
i say you tell her how you feel and tell her that you love her for her and not for what she has sexually.because you are like my fiance he's been with me for me.and i think its a beautiful thing.
Arranged marriages have a less of a divorce rate then others. This may mean that people can be committed relationship and may not be in love at first. Marriage is very serious. My experience says to wait until you are at least 30 years old before taking that leap.
Us women like to be shown a little bit more love than you men give us. You go out with your guy friends, which is okay may I add, but sometimes we need a little us time. Take us out to restaurants, movies, the mall for gods sake!!! You hang out with other people as though you have no time for us. When that happens we start to feel as though you don't love us, we get desperate, and start to go after other men(the wrong type that treats us wrong and have no respect for us). All I'm saying is that you need to show some kind of compassion every now and then and maybe squeeze in a little treat in the middle.
you sound like you arnt into games,so come right out and ask her what your unsure about,bet she will appreciate that.it will save both of you from wasting your precious time.
Babe...be a man about it and tell her how u feel.If you are both good friends eunf to actually talk about anything then what the heck are u waiting for?? Huryy or she may find someone that doesnt treat her bad and then you the one that lost out. Lifes too short for ''what if's''
Please.....do it...dare ya! Lifes too short hunny. Good Luck all the way from Scotland. xx
Love is devotion that you refuse to let die, romance is something that will pass in time.
Love has many levels,some people just can't get past the romantic ,lustful part.Some people don't even want to really feel what real love is because they have been hurt before.you know in other countries where marriages are arranged they don't even know each other yet many fall in love and continue to love each other.why can't you just love and fall in love with this girl by letting her know how you feel!
i think you might be thinking on this a little bit too hard lol.
i do like that you want to know the differences between the two and how a person should feel with that feeling.
i think love is something that you are freely willing to give another person, its like a piece of you, its your faith, trust, and respect that you have for this person. i think if these are all their, then love comes from that.
when you love someone, their is this actually phyiscally painful and yet beautifully feeling in your heart and stomach even, that you can't even breathe its so intense.
so with this girl, you do need to go out with her and take it to a level where its only the two of you in the relationship, cause what your saying here.
is that you love this girl for about 4 years, but its a not a girlfriend and boyfriend way. you can't decided to marry a girl without having to date them or getting to know their them without having friends around or other influnces. i mean she's even dating other guys.
then with romance part, it should come after the fact that you are in love with someone, romance is like the desert after a lovely full meal. romance is something sweeter and can be fun to deal with. romance shouldn't be based on love though, if you falling in love cause of the idea of romance, its not reality.
i think you need to talk to this girl about wanting to committe to her, but if you haven't even dated as a real couple yet, then you shouldn't even be thinking of marriage yet.
Wow.jeeeeeez, why must it be so hard? Damn it! I say sit her down and ask her exactly what you've asked us in that very same way, if she's interested she tell you!! Women are more emotional then men are and I can tell you if a man came to me with this I'd be flattered and awwed!! But far warning give it some time to sink in! Good luck to you !!
Loving someone is difficult to explain. From my experience of almost 33 years of marriage, I can say I love my spouse. Because of who he is, what he does and how he takes care of me and what he feels for me. Yes, women are emotional, but you do not necessarily have to have a physical attraction to someone to love them. There are many stages of love, first of all there is puppy love, (usually when one is really young and falls head over heels about a guy). But that might not last too long. Then as you mature, you find that special someone who cares about you for who you are. Maybe how they said something, or did something or just a certain gesture. I believe that there is friendship involved with loving someone. In my case, I am a friend, wife, mother, lover and companion all rolled into one. I do not think that you have to like someone just for their physical attributes. As those might dim as time goes on, but the personality and other attributes carry these marriages/relationships alot longer. As the marriage process ages, so do each of the individuals so there has to be more than physical attraction to get the couple through a marriage/relationship. If you really truely care about this woman/take the initiative and tell her how you feel and see what happens. I know my spouse said he was scared to ask me out or even marry him. He was scared I was going to say no. But did you think she might be feeling the same way and is scared to tell you how she feels too. So go for the gold and go out there fighting for what you want. Hope you have a happy and long relationship whenever it happens.
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