How to be more brave?
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There are good reasons that you may experience fear: it is most often our mind warning us of the consequences of a bad, or unfortunate, or dangerous action (or reaction) on your own part. So the FIRST step in becoming more brave is to recognise why you feel as you do.
The next step is to put into context the nature of braveness. To be brave is to make an intelligent choice in the face of fear. If you fear, for instance, standing before people to speak, being brave means to DECIDE to stand before people despite your fear. But "despite" does NOT mean "ignoring" -- instead it involves awareness of the consequences and awareness that they are bearable.
Another example is if you urgently require surgery (according to best advice) but you fear the pain, suffering, or even death. Being brave would be to submit to the surgery in full knowledge of the fears, but more aware of the probable benefits. So the SECOND step is to put the benfits of a fearful action into context.
The THIRD step is to set a measurable goal, and set your will toward it. In other words, resolve to take a particular action. Making this goal for yourself establishes the way forward so that your fears are no longer a log-jam. It may be wise to make it a mall action; once you have achieved that goal your own mind will congratulate you, and make it much easier to set the next goal -- even if you continue to feel fearful (and you probably will !) Note that these short-term goals MUST be measurable -- both in their terms and timetable: otherwise you will not recognise that you have achieved them.
These three steps should help you to bypass inaction when you feel fears -- but in the short term don't kid yourself into thinking that they will dissolve the fears: that may NEVER come, depending on the source and nature of those fears. Remember to tell yourself that the "fear mechanism" is there for your safety: fear should NOT be treated as an enemy.
In summary, the steps are
1. recognise the nature of your fears: how they serve you and how they are holding you back
2. put into context what bravery means in the particular problem
3. create short-term, measurable goals toward the "brave" treatment of the problem
This strategy has served me well: I fully expect that it can help you.
It's all mind over matter.
If you think you can do it, you can do it.
If you think you'll fail, you will.
Just do it...
that's the way to be more brave...
"JUST DO IT"
overcome your fear by doing what you fear immediately! for example, if you fear to drive, drive the moment your fear arise.. talk to someone less intimidating to build your confidence, and then talk to someone you tend to have 'fear'.
it;s all in your mind.. just do it!
Gotta tell ya, the only thing that worked for me was God. Became a Christian and the world suddenly became doable!!
Braveness doesn't means lack of fear. Its just that you are able to oversome your fear. Its always good to be fearful. It allows to understand the situations properly and to take calculative decisions.
And then, if you really want to do something, start doing it right now, don't think too much. Action is the biggest remedy of fear.
Time n tide wait for none, just do it.
Feel the fear and do it anyway!!
You don't have to be a Buddhist. to take a few excellent hints. Forget the ego, the big self-concious thing that stops you because what will I look like what will people think of me, what if I come across as... everything ends up with. ME, I, ME it's all about ME ME ME, insecurity is another word for ego. Beacuse it is all about ME. What if it wasn't all about ME and it was all about a true interest in others? No time to think about what they are thinking about YOU, just what are thinking about? Leave yourself out of it.
Confront your fears. You already seem to have identified them.
When you meet people for the first time introduce yourself. particularly in groups that meet for the first time, everyone is feeling the same so if you do this they see you as the strong one. This will give you the confidence in yourself. Then when you meet someone you want to talk to you will have the confidence.
Making the effort to get experience and gain confidence works in all these situations. Take a small step, gain confidence to take a bigger step. There is virtually nothing you cannot do if you only apply yourself. It all comes down to learning and using what you learn with confidence.
unblocking the mental blocks keeping yourself fit & regular workouts, Right company etc etc
Put on your confidence cap, always works.
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