Am I just his "for now girl"...?

Question:

3 weeks ago my ex-bf called me & asked me to go see a movie with him. The weird thing is that HE was the one who dumped me, we only dated for one month AND this call came after one year. I said yes, he picked me up, then as soon as the movie was done he drove me home. It felt kinda rushed, on the drive home when I asked him why he wanted to see he said, "I wanna see you every once in awhile". We never had sex cuz he knew that I wanna save myself for marriage. During this year although he never asked me to see him, he did talk to him on msn. Is he stringing me along & what does he want? He's 26 while I'm 21.Some say he wants sex, but he knows my beliefs and he can get anywhere since a lot of girls put out. He could still have feelings for me but why won't he just ASK ME OUT again? Not ask me to “hangout” but I mean why won't he ask me to be his gf again, to really date again? I mean he's 26, he's graduating from grad school, gonna get his MBA degree & he's strating a job in June. It seems like he wants to settle down but why won't he just ask me out? What the hell is his deal?

Answer:
i say dont take his calls - he's using you as an option until somebody else comes along

since he doesnt want to go out with you, he does not have the right to just see you once in a while

you are worth more than that. if you are to timid to tell him so, then just don;t take his calls

he's obviously a loser MBA or not

Sounds like you need to ask him and not make assumptions.

GL!

'-)

what the hell is your deal?!! you keep asking this question, obviously you aren't going to find your answer in here...but hey, thanks for another 2

Ur not putting out, and he doens't want to cheat on you, so he waiting for the right moment when ur ready and if u are then he will.

Or he's just a jackass.

I hate to say it but yeah its the ladder theory. Right now you are on the top of the ladder but as soon as he loses interest or sees someone, your spot on the ladder will be replaced. It is hard but focus your energy on someone who wants to spend time with you and you are still young. 21 is a fabulous age to be. Enjoy life!

apparently he knows you are gold, but wont admit it. dont give it up to him, you be smart and move on, I know you have, but really move on, and let him know you are better than to be strung along. Whatever he wants, he cant seem to make up his mind really. Save yourself alot of pain... just walk away and dont look back. There is someone out there who will love you for you.

Maybe he has no one to go out wid so he's just using u for the time being...

The best would be to ask him rather than jump into conclusions...

What i can guess is now he need from you is friendship & not love...

It sounds like he doesn't know what he really wants. But If I were you I would tell him he can't keep doing this to you. You need to have self respect and tell him you are not a toy to be taken out and put away whenever he wants. You are a human being with feelings. Why don't you tell him how you feel and if he can't accept that then its just a waste of time. You should find someone that has the same beliefs as you do so you can feel comfortable. Men don't see things the way us women do. Maybe he's trying to see if you are the same way as you were that one year. Just don't let him manipulate you. Good luck sweetie!!1

shouldn't you be asking him this question???

Am I just his "for now girl"...?

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